One good thing that has come out of all this is the love and support I have received from all my family (and his family) and friends. You never realize how great the people in your life are until something like this happens. Just tonight when I was really feeling low, my cousin from NY called to see how I was doing. I usually only see him at Thanksgiving so the fact that he took the time to call really meant something. Everyone has been so supportive and that has meant so much.

Kloe, I'm glad it's working out for you better as time goes along.. perhaps you can look at the "1 night of stupidity" topic and help me understand her feelings better... I think that would really help me communicate with her... anyway, best of luck to you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Kloe, thank you for your thoughts.. The 'grieving" comment was esp. helpful. For you, keep the faith and take care of yourself...and your upcoming bundle of joy!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Something good...

Hmmm...

Well, I learned to cook.

I learned how to be self sufficient financially, domestically, emotionally...

Ok... well, at least domestically and financially...

I've really bonded with my son.

I've re-established long dormant ties with family members...

I've got a better job.

That pays more. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

While acknowledging that I've stumbled a few times during my journey, I still feel that I've travelled far and grown so much within myself. I've learned that I'm stronger than I ever thought possible.

I've learned how important my beloved really is to me.

I live in

oops...

I live in a really nice town now, close to actual ski hills <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> And I now get to ski with my sons. And in the summer, you can actually swim... get this... in the lake!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Ummm, lessee...

I got some cool new chairs. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oh yeah, I started really fixing my life. I've grown up a lot and I feel like no matter how things work out, I'm headed for a great life.

dewt

I can say that a lot of good came out of this A. I'm pretty sure that following the MB concepts not only restored my M but made it much better.

My H appreciates me more and takes every chance he can to show me how much he loves me.

Our family is closer as a unit.

I have bonded with my sister like I never have. We are best friends now. She stood beside me through all of this and shared my pain. There were times when I actually felt sorry for her because she hurt so bad for me. I learned how much she loves me and how much I mean to her.

Our faith in God has grown.

I learned to focus on me. I'm not just a mom and a wife. I'm a young, beautiful, smart, funny woman and I lost sight of that before the A. It was all about my kids and my husband.

So all in all I wish these changes had come about on their own but they didn't and I'm glad now we have all had a reality check.

There is nothing in this world that would make the pain of an A worth it. Everyone involved is crushed.