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GrayCloud?
Are you on anti-deps yet hon?
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Jo, I started on Lexapro ten days ago. I don't know where I'd be right now without it. Before it started to work I was having panic attacks and would start to cry uncontrollably and without warning in very inconvenient situations. The pain was almost unbearable. My blood pressure was flying, I could not work, and I was eating pretty much nothing.
Today I found out that the sparrow spent the weekend with OM at her family's vacation house, which was always a special place for us. He ditched out on plans to spend Father's Day with his daughter so he could be with my wife. His wife is furious. She changed her locks and is going straight to her lawyer tomorrow, probably to get started with the divorce. She's pregnant and therefore unmedicated, and she's in the middle of an emotional firestorm. I feel so horrible for her.
I'm going out later with a friend to throw darts at an imaginary image of the sparrow. My correspondence with OM's wife must remain secret, but no way is the sparrow crashing in my house again.
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Gawd GC, I'm so sorry.
The things they DO!!!
Just sit back and watch the show if you can, GC.
One of the hardest things for me was to try not to control the situation during my H's affairs.
Letting go and concentrating solely on me was THE single hardest thing in this enormous shipload of pain and hurt I had to endure.
If I can do it, heck anyone can. But it isn't easy. And what I found is being consistent in my actions and message to my then-H was pivitol in gaining strength.
Maybe it's time to let Sparrow test her wings without a home-nest landing waiting for her when she feels fatigued.
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Jo, test her wings she shall. I am remembering who she was, taking care of myself, calmly watching, and plan-A-ing very well, if I may say so.
My only recent error has been letting her use me as a doormat, but that will be corrected shortly.
I am not interfering at all, but I must confess that I almost cracked today. I went to where she is supposedly staying. I parked several blocks away and walked toward the house. I had no idea why I was there, but I was reeling from the news of how she spent her weekend. Then the madness passed and I got out of there fast. Now I'm cool, home safe, and listening to an old Jane's Addiction disc turned waaaaay up. Much better.
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