hi, you all might remember my post about a week ago "will we make it??". anyways, my WH has been friend's with this girl and her fiancee for a few years, in fact we have all hung out a few times. i have always been fine with her, but since i found out he had slept with 2 other girls, i feel like i can't even trust him around her. i have said something to him, and he assures me they are only friends. he says they could never do anything like that b/c she (and her fiancee) are like a little brother and sister to him.
the thing that makes me wonder, today i went to his work and we went out to lunch. when i dropped him off she was coming down the sidewalk. (they work in the same complex, but different stores) she came over and said hi to me, and she told him "just wanted to come say hi". i tried to see if she went in after i left or not, but couldn't tell. he is still at work, and i want to talk to him about it when he gets home, but i thought i'd ask "am i being too unreasonable, considering we have all been friends for a long time?"
i just don't trust him at all, and i'm not just gioing to sit back and feel like i let it happen(if it does).
thanks for letting me rant. any comments are welcome. julie

Hmmm. Time for him to give up this friend. He has proved that he cannot be trusted. So my advice is for them to have NC.

Yah, NC probably is best.

I have made a rule with my hubby that I will not associate with my male outside of work unless he's around. If they don't want to be friends with both me and MY HUSBAND and go out with the both of us, then they are not friends.

I would also imagine that he's vulnerable right now considering everything that happens which can make things worse. Yeppers, no contact.

thanks guys, i talked with him last night and he said the reason she came down was to tell him her fiancee wanted to buy the minidisk player from us. i told him what you said that if i'm not around i don't want her around him by hiself, and he said he respected that. she is one of few who knows our situation, so he let her and her fiancee know that, and just explained that i am not comfortable with it, and he wants to do everything possible to rebuild my trust. thanks guys, julie

That sounds very promising. Glad to hear he was agreeable.