I just got an email from a poster is hurting badly, but can't seem to figure out how to post a new topic or where to post. I've directed her here and hope that you all will help me welcome her. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Here is the information about her situation she's sent so far:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Well my problem is that i am at a place in my life where i am so unhappy. I have a baby boy who is seven months old but his Daddy is cheating. I know that he was with her on Saturday. The part that hurts the most is that to him he is doing nothing wrong. He says that i hurt myself because i try to fing out if he is cheating. He claims that if i go along not knowing, things would be so good between us. When he has to go to her he says such hurtful things to me. Like Saturday for instance he told me that i should leave him alone so he could be with whom ever he wants to be with that night. Then he says that he loves me and our son and that he will never leave us. I think that i should leave the relationship for a while to see if it will give him a jolt but i am so scared, what if he decides to stay with her? What will i do ? I love him so much.
Talk to me please i really need some help. Thanks in advance.
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Welcome Sindy:

Just wanted to bump this back up for others to respond to.

Anyway, this is a great place to be considering your circumstances.

As for specific help, I don't know if I'll be able to help you or not. But here goes: First, try to read as many of the main articles on the main board, specifically as regards to infidelity. Here's are a couple of links for you: Marriage Builders Home Page and Infidelity

Anyway, try to read as much of the information on the main board about infidelity. Try to read about Plan A and all the other stuff. Once you got that down, come back here. Or more specifically, if you have questions about implementing it or stuff like that come back here.

Also, you can read different threads here about other peoples situations. Hopefully, you can glean information that is somewhat pertinent to your situation. Sometimes, there are links in these threads that are as helpful as the threads themselves are.

And lastly, if you want to "post" questions here, after you read a thread at the bottom of each thread are a couple of buttons. Click on the "post a reply" button and wait til the next box comes up. Then just put your cursor in the box and start typing. When you've completed your comment/question, click on the "add reply". Simple as that, plus the more you "do it" the easier it gets.

Good Luck and God Bless!

RH

P.S. I have over a 100 posts and about 1/2 way through this post, I accidently hit the escape key and cleared the whole box and had to retype it. Don't give up, we're here to help.
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Dear Sindy,
Bless your heart (as we say here in the South!). I mean that with no pun intended, though. You must be hurting so much, and with a little baby, too!

I cannot fathom the callousness with which your husband is treating you; that he KNOWS that you KNOW he is going off to be with someone else, and then he is trying to excuse his behavior by telling you that he loves you and your son and would never leave you?!?!

I am NO expert. Goodness gracious, I have enough problems with my own situation, but I cannot stand by and know you are hurting without saying something. I am going to pray really hard for you and your husband today. I am going to pray that God will open your husband's eyes and he will realize what he is doing. I am going to pray that you will be comforted, and that your marriage will be put back together for your sake, your husband's sake, and for the sake of that little boy whom you both love. Then, because I do not know you or very much about you, I will ask that God will work this out for you in the BEST POSSIBLE WAY!

Please do not hesitate to post here. As Recovering Husband told you, it will be so beneficial for you to tell your story here, ask for input, and to read - read - read whatever you see here that might pertain to you. I think I got as much help from reading about other people's problems as I did from writing about my own!

Do know that there are people here who not only have been through similar circumstances, but who also CARE about what YOU are going through. They will truly try to help you if you will reach out to them!

Hang in there, kid!
Here's a big HUG for you((((()))))!

Marie

Thank you so much Marie and Recovering this is just so difficult to deal with but i must say that i am grateful that i now have you guys to share this with it makes it seem almost possible that things will be ok. I have been trying to get a hold of the Plan A on the Home page and have not been able to do so can you help me

Sindy

Sindy - Did you read graycloud's link? Well anyway Plan A is about being the best wife you can be. No arguing, shouting, disrespectful judgments, etc.

You do Plan A for about 3 or 4 months, and if things don't get better, time for Plan B. But don't worry about that right now.