Hi i joined only yesterday and i just want to say that i feel so much better knowing that there are ohter people going through this who actually understand. Most of my friends don't understand because their lives seem to be perfect so i feel odd talking to them about this. Anyway last night i wrote E a letter telling him that i want to have some space but to be honest i just want to see if we mean anything to him at all. I want to see if realising that he might lose us will make him stop seeing this other woman whio by the way 14 years older than him and 12 years olser than me. I am staring to feel like i am in a compitition and i hate that so much. I just want my life to be the way it was maybe 2,3 years ago when we were so happy. This really is so difficult to deal with, sometimes i am amazed that i have actually gotten through a day. Tell a scared person what do do please do you guys think that i should give up or hang in there, remember he does not think that he is doing anything wrong.The sad part in all of this is my baby boy if i leave what is going to happen to my wanting him to grow up with hius dad? I honeatly am a lost soul.box

Sindy - They all say the same things, and most think they are doing nothing wrong. You need to start in Plan A, not separation. Read grayclouds link on your other post.

Your marriage is very salvageable.