My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have 3 wonderful children 9, 3, and 2 months old. We are Christians and he is in Bible College.

At the hospital after the birth of our 3rd, which was 2 mo. ago, I found out that my best friend was 'on the verge' of having an affair with my cousin. Thank goodness my cousin is a very moral person, and it never became physical. My best friend persued cousin, her husband found out and stopped it.

My best friend has been married for 14 years, and before marriage was very permiscuous. She and her family are now Christians also.

In the course of discussing this "almost" affair between best friend and cousin, my husband tells me that 2 months before our baby was born, he was having thoughts of what it would be like to have a relationship with my best friend, but dealt with his thoughts (which lasted for a few days) and it never turned into anything.

Well this crushed me, that he was having these thoughts, but I respect him at the same time for telling me. We have talked about this issue numerous times, and I have NO reason to believe that anything happened. However, our girls are friends and we go to church with them.

The thought of them together makes me want to throw up, and I can hardly be around her, even though she knows nothing of this. (I will add that she has in the past stolen boyfriends from me and had sex with 'boys' that I liked. --- I would never compete with her flair with the boys because I was 'one of the good girls'.

I know it is normal to be attracted to others, besides our spouse, and I even have. But it's just a 'thought' and it passes----that is if you dont put your thoughts into action.

However, this is eating me alive. I totally trust my husband, and love him very much. We are truly best friends and our sex life is awesome. Like i said before, the thought, that he would have the thought of being with my best friend makes me SICK! How do I get over this!

On a positive note, my friend and her husband are working out their problems, and my husband and I have hardly any interaction with them other than seeing them at church.

Thanks for listening......I don't feel I can reveal this to any one we know. I am hoping to get reassurance! Thanks again!

I think it is in his favor that he was honest with his feelings. He is letting you know that he is vulnerable to infidelity before it happens. I think you should take this as a warning and do the EN survey. Also read about the lovebusters. I think a lot of people wish they could have had a warning before they experienced infidelity. Good Luck!

I don't think you have to worry. Your H told you the truth. It is very normal to be attracted to someone of the opposite sex, but we need to run the other way and not act on our feelings.