Pepper, I've noticed that you make comments about this "guy" thing a lot....where does that come from in your case?
Some of it is playful board humor.
I tend to be a very playful person. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (see!)
Some of it comes from acquired knowledge ... reading books. (For YOU I might recommend Dr. Laura's book "The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands".... She compares the female need for conversation to feel intimate with the male need for sex to feel intimate. If YOU need conversation to feel loved ... the man ~usually~ needs sexual intimacy to feel loved. Amazing, isn't it?)
Some of it comes from my observations ....what I do for a living. I have opportunity to be one-on-one with many types of people and asking them the most personal types of questions imaginable. I do many physical exams almost every day of the week. And I notice trends.
Sometimes, Onlywords, it's not the exact words spoken in the reply, but the vocal tone, the deep sigh, the body language, and presence or lack of of softness in the face that will give the listener the impression that someone is either annoyed or disinterested .... even if the words say something else.
And, because you and I are only typing.... these nuances of communication are lost.... BUT, look for them in your conversations with your spouse.
If your H (either correctly or incorrectly) thought your answer to his question implied an attitude of indifference ... why not simply go to him and ask...
"Honey, what did I do to make you imagine I am not committed to our recovery? I'd like to clear that up right now. I may have been tired at that moment, but I want to reassure you , I AM HERE FOR THE DURATION"
See... it's pretty simple.
Pep
