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onlywords, you have a lot to focus on. I hope you don't mind, I've taken the liberty of starting a new thread just for you. It's called Onlywords - love bank deposits. <small>[ June 25, 2004, 07:34 AM: Message edited by: turtlehead ]</small>
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Pepper, I've noticed that you make comments about this "guy" thing a lot....where does that come from in your case?
Some of it is playful board humor.
I tend to be a very playful person. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (see!)
Some of it comes from acquired knowledge ... reading books. (For YOU I might recommend Dr. Laura's book "The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands".... She compares the female need for conversation to feel intimate with the male need for sex to feel intimate. If YOU need conversation to feel loved ... the man ~usually~ needs sexual intimacy to feel loved. Amazing, isn't it?)
Some of it comes from my observations ....what I do for a living. I have opportunity to be one-on-one with many types of people and asking them the most personal types of questions imaginable. I do many physical exams almost every day of the week. And I notice trends.
Sometimes, Onlywords, it's not the exact words spoken in the reply, but the vocal tone, the deep sigh, the body language, and presence or lack of of softness in the face that will give the listener the impression that someone is either annoyed or disinterested .... even if the words say something else.
And, because you and I are only typing.... these nuances of communication are lost.... BUT, look for them in your conversations with your spouse.
If your H (either correctly or incorrectly) thought your answer to his question implied an attitude of indifference ... why not simply go to him and ask...
"Honey, what did I do to make you imagine I am not committed to our recovery? I'd like to clear that up right now. I may have been tired at that moment, but I want to reassure you , I AM HERE FOR THE DURATION"
See... it's pretty simple.
Pep
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Let's see the Tinman's wish list.
-honesty
-will respect me enough to talk to me when there is something wrong so we can fix it.
-cuddleing together
-making me feel loved and wanted.
-little notes or phone calls during the day letting me know she is thinking about me.
-letting me know that she feels safe with me
-getting lost in eachother for hours before, during, and after sex
-show intrest in things that I like
-spontonaity
-letting me stroke her hair in bed till I fall asleep.
-coming up behind me and giving me a hug and telling me that she love's me
-initiating sex
These are just a few the list can go on and on.
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My dear hubby- </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Crushes the cockroaches outside for me but warns me first so I don't have to hear the squishy noises if I am there
Gives the best back massages
Takes care of me when I am sick or have a bad headache
Holds my hand everywhere we go
Pitches in with laundry and other chores
Washes my car
Tells me he loves me all the time, even the night of d-day...</font></li>
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