I had not reviewed the MB board lately, just thought I would check in.

How is everything? I think you filed, correct?

My W and I filed last week. And we now have the lawyers involved.

Hope all is well with you.

Hi Nature,

I'm not doing so great.It's funny how you can go from being good to being so down in a matter of hours. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I just got back a while ago from one of my two mandatory Families in Transition classes that you have to take in order to go through with a D.I was in a room full of 40 people and could barely keep it together.ugh.Everyone there except 2 other women already had their wedding rings off and they joked part way through the class,which I though was strange but many of them may be further ahead on the emotional curve than I am.

I hate that I am in this position and that it's a choice between staying with my WH who I have been married to for 13 years,together for 20,had 2 children with but is a cheater OR divorce.Lucky me. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Tomorrow is another day though.I hope you are doing better.Thanks for thinking of me.

O

Sorry to hear.....not much words of wisdom, but as you indicated, tomorrow is another day. I would encourage you to purchase a self help book regarding ending relationships, this may make you feel better.

I, like you, am ending the R. I went from the denial stage to hearing more lies from her..and I made a promise to myself that I would never be lied to again. She crossed that boundary 5 weeks ago and I knew we were done and it was the right thing to do for me. I know your situation is more complicated with the children, however.

Look at it this way. YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON. You must see it this way, and take a stand to better yourself. Remember, you can mourn for a time but realize what is ahead of you. Make the choice to move on, move ahead...there is no going back and you cannot change someone else, but you can change YOUR LIFE circumstances.

You will come out of this the better person. I ultimately made the decision to leave after I tried everything and knew I could leave when I could close the door and feel no regrets .

Now, I am looking forward to getting the shabang over with ASAP.....and it helps that I am meeting alot of new women already.

Good Luck...take it one hour at a time and know I am here for you in case you need to chat.

Hi Nature,

Thanks for the pep talk.I took about 5 days off from the board to regroup.I am doing better now that those classes are over and done with.That was a drag.

I can't believe you are already meeting new women.lol.I haven't even been able to think about other guys yet.One relationship at a time for me.And I need some time off to heal from my impending D too.

Thanks for talking.

O