Lisa,

Super news, congratulations. Tell Rob hi and congrats to him too. This will help him tremendously.

On a side note, if your current boss is as good as you say he is, he'll take it very well. He won't like to see you leave, but knowing that he wasn't able to promote you and that you are leaving for a better situation, he will see it for what it is AND be happy for you. Good bosses are like that. (They are also good at training replacements, because they have to be.) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Again, great news, keep up the great work and keep us posted!

Well, I think that it was a combined effort of many prayers!! This is so bittersweet for me. I'm very emotional tonight just thinking about leaving but I know it's the right thing to do!! It is scary though I have to admit. It's hard leaving my job security after 17 years. Please keep me in your prayers that I'm making the right move. I want to be at peace about it.

I think we need a time line on the prayers, because I said one too, and you guys aren't just going to take all the credit. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I mean I'm sure Lisa would like some it was her resume, but who's prayer clinched it????

KY

no resume was even required, how do you like that?? My reputation preceeded me which for once was positive!! Please continue praying, this is going to be so hard to do. I work with a lot of special people that are like family to me. Starting over is not something that I relish but I know it's necessary and will be a positive move.

Keep the prayer chain going, please!!

Thanks

Lisa, it was cool "talking" to you. Son has disappeared back into the nightmare he calls his bedroom again. LOL. The "boy" is 26 years old for goodness' sake. Actually he cleaned his room the other day because his g/f hates the mess when she comes over.

Jenny

Lisa -

I didn't say a prayer but only because I didn't know you were looking for a job. I too believe very stronly in the power of prayer. Especially as I get older and witness little "miracles".

Anyway, what I wanted to say to you was I too have been at my job for 17 years, same office even. And it would be very scary to leave now, so I can really relate. It would be very exciting - scary but exciting.

Jenny, I enjoyed chatting with you too. I hate that I can't hear your accent in chat form!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Weaver, I am scared to death <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ! I'm giving my notice today and my stomach is turning <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

To be anxious and fearful is a natural reaction to change. YOUR allowed to be scared!
And 17 years worth is a mountain of being "comfortable" to overcome.

Just keep in mind that this Change is for the better of everyone (everyone that's important anyway). You've already been through much worse.

Smile, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> this is a positive step forward.
You've already done the hard parts (going out and then GETTING another career path).
Hang on.......this ride will be a lot less bumpy then the one you've been on.
As well as a lot less draining and emotionally Expensive.

Although it is going to throw you off balance for a while, in the End it will be worth it.

Don't shed too many tears today! We are all with you!

<small>[ June 24, 2004, 08:37 AM: Message edited by: top rope ]</small>

Well, I did it!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I gave my two week notice today. Yikes!!!! My last day here will be July 9th. The butterflies are still churning in my stomach. Thank you all for the prayers and encouragment here!!!

Impressive, no resume. Aren't we marketable. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good for you. Charm the pants off of them, no WW pun intended. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hope they have as nice as restrooms as Kiwi's new job.

Best of luck to you, I will say a prayer for your butterflies.
KY

Dear Lisa,

Thought I would catch up with you on your thread here to say CONGRATULATIONS!

I know since the first post you did to me when you said you had to still work with OM I didn't know how you were doing it.

Am so glad for you, and can understand the nervous feeling though. It may seem like one chapter is ending in your life, BUT a new one is beginning.. that is what I am praying for myself.

I need a part time job, but I just want God to open up the right one for me.

Am so pleased and excited for you. I understand what you mean about sharing with people here! I think next to my H, you guys on here would be the next I tell!

Take care Lisa,

Love and blessings to you and H,

Kas

thanks BV. A bit of irony I would like to share. My last day will be the 1 year anniversary of d-day! Spooky, huh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Lisa 103,

I have been catching up on your thread and wanted to say Congrats! You sound like a great gal. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I am so sorry you had to be there that long with your xOM. Makes my seeing my xOM in passing pretty easy to deal with.

Blessings!
Pam

Lisa,

I do want to congratulate you. I am sure your H is delighted with this turn of events and the chance to get OM out of your life. I suspect that many at your work understand your need to move on.

A change of scenery after 17 years is probably a good thing anyway.

Best of luck at your new job.

JL

I wish that today was my last day!!! The other man that I work with who pretended to be a good friend to me when I was border-line having a nervous breakdown approached me months ago expressing concern. It was kind of obvious back then that I was going through something very difficult. Me, still naive I suppose at the time, confided in him about a with co-worker and that every one in the office knew about it, blah blah blah. He pretends to be a friend and next thing I know he is trying to kiss me. He hasn't talked to me since I turned him down.

I told him today via e-mail that I'm leaving. I have worked with him the entire 17 years that I've been here and do not want to leave with hard feelings. He wants to talk to me away from the office. I told him that I would be glad to talk to him here and that I had talked to others here already about it. He wrote me a note back asking if I would at least talk to him over the phone.

What do you guys think?? I have no trust left in me for the opposite sex!!

in case this post is confusing. the man that I'm referring to here is not xOM but another co-worker.

Talk with a witness present ONLY! Bring someone with you .... NOT by phone.

That's my advice.

In fact ... do THIS:

Grab your best female work buddy .... and tell her she is to stand behind you and not leave because you need her in the room to eliminate any remote sense of wrong intentions ...

And go TO HIS office together , and say: (with friend behind you, but in the room where he can see her)


"Did you have something to discuss with me?"

This will take the wind out of his sails right away.....

Pep

<small>[ June 25, 2004, 02:47 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

Lisa, different sort of thing happened at my office. I put all this down to fallout from the A and blame myself for ruining my own reputation. And that is not a 2x4 to you by any means - it's how I blame myself.

At the office at drinks one Friday night I was outside having a cigarette when one of the senior guys joined me. We chatted away about work etc for a while and went back inside.

By Monday the rumour mill had done it's work and my best friend at work told me that people were "talking." I was devastated. In the end I laughed it off with everyone but really I was deeply hurt.

Jenny

he wants to talk to me on the phone...away from the office. My gut instinct tells me NO, but i know I'm leaving and I don't won't to leave with him thinking that I dislike him.

Should I talk to him on the phone?