HI, i've been racking my brain trying to figure this mess out. I dont knwo what to think and thought maybe some of you could have some insight into my mess <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> (i've posted all details elsewhere so i'll be as brief as possiable)

after we seperated (my decision after he kept calling OW last september) he begged me to take him back after 2 months he cried ever mention of a D and cut off contact (on his cell phone is all i can prove) with OW, she even changed her sceadule to something where there together a lot less.

So i took him back. then in april he resumed contact with OW i found the numbers on the phone bill adn he had been giving me an attitude since then so i knew something was up! well since this past weekend when I found the voice mail form her saying she loves him. he is activly looking for a new job and has changed his cell phone number etc.

but what i cant figure out is what is in it for them I mean why whould they keep talking and her with her ilove yous if they can only talk at work. (his time is never unaccounted for so i knwo they dont get together) this seems silly to me. ? and better yet how can i quit worrying while hes at work?

I'm trying to figure out if i should be doing a plan A i dont knwo if its just for while there still in the A or if it woule be beneficial now?

thanks for reading and responding!

Your situation and your husband's reactions to things you've said and to what HE'S done sound PAINFULLY similar.

Unless it's really COMPLETELY out of the question, they NEED to not work together. He needs to get a different job.

"Are you kidding me! You want me to quit!?"

Yep. The affair DOESN'T end if they are still seeing each other on a regular basis. It CAN'T end that way.

You shouldn't have to worry and be upset every time he goes to work and my guess is that's exactly what's going on.

schander