For those who don't know my story, my husband had an affair with a co-worker, who turned out to be the "Fatal Attraction" type of OW.

She falsely accused me of making harassing phone calls to her at work, of which she has no proof. Did I do this...NO!!

I have been through 3 court appearances and have plead not guilty in all of them. The DA is refusing to drop the charges, based soley on her word, and her word alone. I was hoping that the matter would be dismissed yesterday, but it wasn't. I was asked by my attorney as to what I would like to do? I could "stay out of trouble" for 6 months and the charges would be dismissed, or I could take it to trial.

Being that the OW has this knack for setting people up (we have become friends with her last victim...and he's an emotional mess now), I personally think that I would be a sitting duck. Sure, I could stay out of trouble during this time, but what would she accuse me of next? Something more serious, I bet.

So, I decided to take it to trial. It's only a $288.00 ticket, but here I am, paying 3 times it's cost to defend myself against something that I didn't do. I guess you could say it's the principle. If I show her that I'm not going to take this lying down, perhaps she'll get the message and give up? Who knows?

Anyway, to the point of my post. This OW has developed the act of "playing the victim" to an artform. She should win an oscar for her performances in front of a judge. Tears and all.

Being that I am the BS, I am stereotyped as to behave a certain way. I'm supposed to rant and rave, cry, seek revenge, and whatever else society believes that a BS is supposed to behave like.

That's probably why the DA has refused to listen to my side of the story. He's going on her word alone. After all, she's the victim here, isn't she? She knew my husband was married, seduced him anyway and tried her darndest to get me out of the picture. Not that I'm forgetting his role in the affair...but she deceived him also. She is a predator, and I have never met anyone so cold and vindictive as this woman. I guess I must live a sheltered life, huh?

Actually, in my eyes, I AM THE TRUE VICTIM here, not her. I stayed faithful to my husband. I didn't rant and rave and seek revenge on either of them. I have something that the DA probably has no knowledge of, and that's my faith in God. Rather than stoop to the OW's level by getting irate and slashing car tires, threatening her, etc, I turned to women I knew from church and the Bible for guidance. So, in a nutshell, I didn't behave as a typical BS is expected to, and now I'm being persecuted in court for it.

That's ok, God will restore me in the end. I must have faith in that, or I'm lost.

Ok, thanks for letting me rant. At least I'm not out destroying something, as they expect me to. I prefer to take out my anger on my keyboard.