What’s the deal here?

The sitch so far: Mediation is in one month. W and I are on good speaking terms. OM is writing 2-5 a day and on phone 3+hrs and is beginning to pressure her. W hates phone communication and has expressed weariness with the long distance nature of R. Called former best friend last night and cried for hour stating that she is lonely and doesn’t know what to do. Doesn’t like that said friend talks with me and is supportive. Also said that she thinks I’m brainwashing her and others. Our friend (bless her) told her the truth: I have never said anything negative about her, nor has she heard that I’ve done so with others.

W is Very suspicious of my daytime whereabouts and nightime phone/internet activities (I’m still on leave). Every day shares more about what she’s doing (she’s opening her medical practice on Monday 6-28-04, which happens to be our 13th wedding anniversary) Asked me to come by today and bring things she left at home.

Is there something else I should/could be doing while the bubble is beginning to burst? I intend to let her know very soon that I will not actively participate in the divorce (see thread:Should I Explain Why I'm Fighting D?) It seems the pressure is getting to her. Is this a good time or bad for new action?

I wonder, what should I do on Monday? Her practice opens then (great for her!!) and it's our 13th anniversary (a "nothing" day for her) What gesture would be most appropriate for a situation like this?

Dleigh -

I would reply to you, but I don't know. I'll bump it up again in hopes that some veteran's see it and can help.

Weav

Guess what? She wants to take her kast check from her job and buy a car! Every day, something different.