Movin on,,,
When my wife betrayed me one of the first thoughts after the shock was this man must be awesome. It is hard to believe the woman you love would just throw her intimacy around. He must have been what she allways wanted... is how the BH feels. His confidence is gone,,, I asked my wife about all the details even some related directly to the sex,,, its how we feel,, a BH has a hard time accepting The WW was just led astray and made a mistake. I felt like My wife found an emotional and sexual technique that I was unable to provide... Your husband is asking this because he feels he was not good enough intimately so you got it elsewhere. I felt the same. My wife has told me everything in the book to reassure me the OM was no better in the sack than me. The simple fact is OM was not into my wife for emotions he was in it for sexual satisfaction, he said all the right things to blind my wife,, he would not continue to make her feel good emotionally unless he got what he needed,,, BOOM wife gives in. I still compare myself to the OM,, its natural.
The only way to reassure him is to show him,,not tell him.... he wants to please you in every way to keep this from happening again. We men concentrate on the physical aspects of the affair, it is hard to come to terms with the fact that the OM was not going to continue making her feel good with words unless she committed to his needs.
Do anything you can to reassure him and do it often,,, trust me he needs it bad.
