Ok, so I just called WH at home to say hello because I was having some anxiety and needed to just chat about inconsequential things for a minute, and he was short with me. I could tell he didn’t want to be on the phone (he has to work nights tonight and was getting ready to take a nap), but it absolutely leaves me feeling just wilted inside when he’s short with me. He knows this! I want to call him back and tell him that I don’t like it when he’s short with me like that, and that I need to hear friendly, love-bank type words, but I’m afraid he’ll just get even more irritated with me. Should I just chalk it up to him being tired? I feel like every time he does that, we’re falling back into our old ways again. Should I call him and tell him that he hurt my feelings and risk him saying (as he usually does) “for Pete’s sake woman, stop it!”.

Having some major anxiety now.....

Chalk it up to him being tired. You are very needy now, but it will get better. Keep doing things that make you feel good and taking care of you. Are you doing that?

I'm trying to do that. Hard to do though because of how busy I am (little league, an infant, etc.). Kids make me feel good, but I never have time to myself for, like, long baths, etc.

Ok, I'll try not to let it upset me. It's hard though, because you're right, I'm so needy and sensitive right now.

I keep hoping I'll go home tonight and find a card, or note or SOMETHING there that tells me he was thinking about me today.

Part of being anxious and having panic attacks is that you are taking care of everyone else, and who is taking care of you?

Somehow you need to get time for you. Pamper yourself.