Well it's been 15 months since my WW left to start her new life with OM. As many of you know he was a good friend of ours as was his wife.

Well to those who may be new, things will get better though the path your on may lead in many unique and differant directions.

As for me I'm about a month away from divorce as my WW still has eyes for OM. For her leaving our marriage, mutual friends and fracturing her family and walking away from mine is a better world for her to live within. I still don't see it but maybe I'm biased.

Anyway thanks for all that have helped out and here's to new beginnings.

Thanks for the update. How are you doing?

I'm doing well. At least I think so as do those close to me.

I'm not sure if you understand this but there are times at which I feel very calm and comfortable, almost a reverse of the anxiaty and panic attacts even though I didn't have many of them to start with.

One thing I find strange is the lack of concern by my WW towards me (little to no contact or acknowledgement of any wrong doing) or the OM with his wife. He's acted the same towards her. Very distant.

Maybe the are soulmates after all. Well not likely in the end.

So how about you??

GG,

Good to hear from you. As for he fog, looks like it has mutated a bit but glad you are able to move forward.

Keep up the good work. One day the fog will lift. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

take care,
L.

Hey goodguy, you sound really good. Just sorry your W hasn't come around. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Hey, Goodguy! We're in the same boat. It's 15 months for me, too. But it's okay -- I know his denial is deep, and I know OW is a nutter. Get out of the blast zone, and remove to bunkers 2 and 4.

Hi GoodGuy,

I don't know if you remember me - I am from the same era as you on these boards.

After over 1 year in Plan B, and having not spoken to him during that time, I phoned last weekend. I have been living in another country for the last 6 months, unbeknown to WH/STBX. I needed to say some things to him, and I also wanted to discuss the divorce arrangements. Similar situation with WH/STBX still trying to make it work with OW and no real concern for me and what this had done to my life.

When I asked him if he wanted a divorce, he said "That's too much of an emotional question for me to answer" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> OH PLEASE!! His actions had already spoken loud and clear, yet he still hadn't thought about getting a divorce. He then went on to say that he thought I would(should?) take care of it!!!

Towards the end of our conversation he asked me for my friendship. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I gave him about 10 reasons why we couldn't be friends, the first being that he was still seeing OW, the last being that I couldn't be friends with someone who had betrayed me, lied to me, etc ... and who had never thought to apologise. This brought on an apology from him, which was heartening, but the fact that I had to suggest it to him was quite telling.

So, GoodGuy, as we are learning, life does go on. There is only so much we can do to repair things.

I am far better off without this person in my life. My life has less certainty about it, but it also has more possibilities. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />