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Maybe it's not worth the struggle
#1151932 06/26/04 01:21 PM
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I shocked myself. For the first time since I met my H I saw a quality that someone else had that made me want want to be around them and not my H. This whole thing scares me because I committed myself to my H, but his EA and lack of respect and care about me has caused me to want nothing to do with him.

He is always talking and I'll I seem to hear is blah blah blah. I just don't care about what car he raced or what movie he wants to see. It all seems to go in one ear and out the other. I want him to just tell me the truth and I feel he just tries to give me distractions.

I've been trying Plan A, but I'm not sure he is worth saving. I care about him, but I'm not sure I can still say I love him. If I really believed that I could get the man I married back it wouldn't be a choice for me, but I'm not sure he still exhists.
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I'm right with you. You have to look at the whole relationship. Then decide what you want to do.
Re: Maybe it's not worth the struggle
#1151934 06/26/04 10:59 PM
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Sometimes it is hard to struggle and Plan A our WS. Just look at all the success stories on this board. That's what I do. Keeps me going. That and a lot of loving 2x4s from BS who HAVE recovered. No one wants the A to happen. Many here say there M is better than ever after it.

Praise God. He keeps his Rom 8:28 promise!

Hang on to that for a while. Surely, the old husband deserves a little more time. If it pans out, your new H should be better than ever.

Plan A = 6 mos, really just a drop in the bucket of your life. Stay tough.
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#1151935 06/28/04 03:46 AM
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Moosie, I agree with ncwalker, try to hang on for a while… Last week I’ve send you a response to you other thread “Did I screw up?”... Not sure if you have read it yet. I have sent some links you and/or you H might find helpful.

Blessings, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Suzet

<small>[ June 28, 2004, 03:47 AM: Message edited by: Suzet* ]</small>
Re: Maybe it's not worth the struggle
#1151936 06/28/04 05:39 PM
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Thank you for the encouragement. Just when I was ready to walk away I got my H back. Right after I posted this his mom called me and invited me over. We were talking and one thing lead to another and I ended up her everything that had been going on.

After I told her most of the story my H and his dad came home from their golf game. He knew what we had been talking about the minute he walked in the door. It seems reality smacked him across the face. I just hope it lasts.

BTW Thank you Suzet. I read all of the links. They just comfirmed everything.
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Moosie:

My FWW and myself are not "home-free" but I feel like we are heading in the right direction. I have very bad days and emotional swings post DD when I think of the betrayal, lies, etc. but I want my M to work anyway. I asked my FWW if she ever feels the need to renew contact with the OM to please just divorce me so I don't have to go through the pain and the process again.

Be patient and don't give up.

Signed..

Tire but determined

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