thanks ron53.we are good men for being true to are W,so why did it happen,i will never know this but i keep looking for some reason.i just dont know if i will ever love her like i did before and that hurts the most,i cant keep the bad things out of my head i am live in hell every day and night.do they love us are is just more convent to stay than find a new life.

Are you saying the affair is over and that your wife has just been honest with you and told you the truth???

You should thank your lucky stars that she told the truth. You are bless with a woman who has decided to stay with you.

There a lot of betrayed husband who is fighting for their wifes and these wifes are leaving them and wants divorce. Can you imagine the pain from that?????

My advice to you is read "His needs, Her needs" book. Learn all about her needs so as to avoid this A from happening again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

zizzycool thanks for the slap on the face she did stay with me but is her love for me the strongest. i guess time will tell.is there some one on this site that got over a long EA/PA that are happy and it made their marriage stronger sure would like to hear some good news for a change

EMT, good news, the Pistons won the series!!

I hope you don't mind me answering your question to me from another thread on here. I did give you the respect and read this thread.

The crowbar Q - did this help my H recovery??
I would say yes. Although he has still has very hostile feelings for the OM, but I guess if he hadn't first reacted with the crowbar, he would still be chasing him all over town trying to get some kind of revenge.

However, it was a huge LB for me. I didn't like seeing him this angry, it wasn't appealing at all. I know he didn't like hearing I had been sleeping with his BF either.

I'm just saying think before you do something, because it could be a serious LB for your W.

On to your thread - do you really want to know the honest answers to all your Q about OM??? Or do you just need to hear that you are better in bed? What if you wasn't though. Don't make her hurt you more if that is the case.

Trust me the guilt alone will kill her, but then to have to answer Q like that.

I'm guessing you haven't forgiven your W. You have called her many things. If her A is truly over and she has committed to you, forgive her with all your heart. She needs that for her personal recovery, and you do as well.

I wish you luck. I'm here to answer any Q you might have. They might be laced with sarcasim and lack seriousness, but I will try my best.

BTW, I'm sure OM was hung like a field mouse. They all are. Ask any BH.
KY