I totally blew Plan B!!! I was so close. After a week of a good plan B (and a very good Plan 1 for 5-6 months), WS called and we started talking again--said he wanted to make the marriage work. He said that he loved me and that he knew that he had no future with OW. He just needed a little time to end things with her. Explained that he had become emotionally attached to her and now he had to get "detached". Stupid me totally believed him! In fact, I thought he was taking time to get through early withdrawals.
I couldn't have been more wrong. I admit that after a couple of weeks I started bothering WS and asking "when" "when." Well, just had another talk with WH (at his request--I know, I shouldn't have talked with him) and he said that he's still not sure. He is in love with OW and doesn't want to come back just for the kids, although he would love to do that, but that he's just in love with her. Said that he has thought about all the years (now including when we even dated) and is not sure that he ever "had it."
I said "well if you think your life will be better with her then you need to leave." He said (rather in an angry tone): I don't think it will be better!" Then he said that there is no reason to go back to not speaking and using intermediary (referring to my Plan b), it served its purpose and now we are beyond that. I explained that I needed it. He said that we should talk to discuss important things.
He said that he is having a hard time leaving the house and kids, but that he needs to make his decision soon because he is a wreck. (He has been in his own appartment for about 6 months now). As I was leaving he said, "we'll talk soon." I said "no, no more until you have made your decision.
So what do I do--resend the Plan B letter or just start it up again, since I've basically said that's what I'll be doing.
He sounded so different a couple of weeks ago (so hopeful), but everytime it comes down to the wire, he folds!!
