OK quick backround. Found out about A on April 12 while I was overseas working. Came home right away and WW moved in with OP 2 days later. Have had little contact since. Op is a truck driver and not home very much ( 4 to 6 days a month). He doesn't make much $ because of child support to all those kids he has (OP is 27). 3 weeks ago WW wife loses her job because she took to much time off of work to be with OP. She went on the road with him for 2 1/2 weeks and had no vacation time to take off. Last week she calls me ( a first) and asks if I have her resume on my computer. I said no, that I had a bug on it and it wasn't working right. I didn't want to help her find a job. She should pay for what she has done. Well I find out that I don't have her resume or mine either. So now I am not lieing to her. She calls me today and asks about her resume. I said I don't have it or mine either. She says she will figure something out. I offer to help her right one up and she says she doesn't know and will think about it and let me know. I asked her how she was doing money wise and she said she was doing OK, that she has too. I offered to lend her some money and she said she didn't need it. She can't find a job and she needs a resume to help get one. Why is she not willing to take me up on my offer to help her? I would think she would be more than willing to take it. I don't understand. Any suggestions. Please help. Also the last couple of contacts I have not mentioned anything about us or our M. Just kept it simply and nice. No LB's. I don't think OP is going to support her for very long when she is not bringing in any money. Maybe this is the start of the end of there A. Don't know, but we will see. I think I am just rambling here...sorry

I am sorry, perhaps I am missing something....Can you please explain your
motive behind, wanting to help your WS carry on her EMA...by financially supporting it?

Max

Thanks for the 2 x 4 across the head. I don't know what I was thinking. Silly me. I'll make sure I never do that again. She has to struggle on her own, OP is not going to help her either. Sitting home alone with no freinds, no job and no money has got to eventually get to her, and bring some reality to her brain. Sure doesn't look like her A turned out the way she planned.