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I just found out my wife has been cheating on me. i dont know if i can take this pain. i love her with all my heart. she and I are apart quite frequently because of our jobs and so that is her "reasoning" for doing it. i have comfronted her about this for the last 4 months and she would get livid with me for doubting her. so in turn i would feel bad. but now that i know it hurts even worse that she would make me cry before admit to her affair. the way i found out was by going over the cell phone bill saw his number and freaked. so then i looked at her email and found the truth. she is mad because i invaded her privacy and she has put up a wall because of that. was i wrong for doing that.....i feel it was somewhat justified. please just reply i need some sort of comfort.
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thanks for the support
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Control your temper. Do not allow yourself to name-call, etc. Don't make threats like divorce.
Find out who the OM is and if he is married. See if they work together.
Do you have kids?
Does your W say the affair is over?
Keep posting.....
Pep
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BH,
I am very sorry you are here and very sorry for your pain. You were absolutely right to snoop on your wife under the circumstances. What you have found has confirmed your reasons for snooping.
Tell her that she does not have the right to the privacy to destroy you behind your back. Her affair is VERY MUCH your business and she has no right to hide this information from you. So don't let her plague you with inappropriate guilt on the top of the adultery.
Is she willing to end all contact with the OM now that this has been exposed?
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I do know who he is and i see him and saw him daily through thier affair. the 3 of us were deployed together. it was happening right under my nose. she says its over however, i havent even seen her since i found out she got stuck out because of weather so we havent done this in person yet. well i tried to do it in person but without my definaive proof she...denied and cursed me for even thinking it. i do love heri love her like no other man has loved a woman, but my pain humiliation and despair is making me reluctant to stay. im just so hurt.
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No he is not married. No kids.
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