good morning everyone,

i just have a question. WH woke up to go to school this morning, and i was awaken by him holding me and whispering "I love you so much".

he said he had a bad dream. his dream was that i left him. he just held me(which was really nice <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> and he whispered "i'm so sorry".

i really like to hear him say that, i like to know he is sorry, but what do i say? anything?

we just held each other for a while, but i never said anything (i said i love you when he got up).

anyways, maybe a stupid ? to bother everyone with, i just felt like i should have said something.

either way, it felt good having him hold me.

hope everyone has a good day!!!
julie

Julie, sometimes words just aren't necessary. Talk to him about it when he gets home, if you think you need to.

HB216,

What happened this morning is a good thing. Silence speaks volumes. It is his time to talk and your time to listen.

When mine did that it was in the same type of scenario. I let him speak and just said thank you. Left it go for a while. Of course I was nervous like you are and wanted more info (that taker in me was starting to act up - LOL!!!). I had to learn to be patient. A few days later, he said it again and this time I asked why he was apologizing. We both knew but I needed to hear it for clarification and reassurance. That was the start.

Now I will tell you that he still backslid for a while after that but that initial apologiy rain in both our ears and each of his slipups carried its own guilt more than I could have ever heaped on him.

That apology was a crack in the A and later when he was able to put his actions to permanently match it, then it became more evident. It took time though. The fog is thick.

Hope your H can show his actions as well. You will know.

Be patient. Don't push it. It takes a lot for those words to come from him right now.

take care,
L.