My husband was here last night, very tired from work, but he fixed the broken pipe, etc.

I was careful not to say much, gave him supper and aske dhim if he was staying the night.He said if I didn't mind driving him in the morning at 6, which I agreed to becasue he needed the sleep.

He said he is uncertain about what to say to me because he doens't know where I am at , if I am going to flip out or whatever.( I haven't flipped out for ages). He commented that I leave long pauses on the phone when he calls.

I think he is scared to talk to me, of being rejected.

I did a 180. Said I don't feel much like talking about heavy stuff right now.

So we had sex, and went to sleep.

I drove him to work , a one hour drive, said very little.

He said he is very depressed and sees no chance for financial security.( We are in debt with nothing to show for it b/c of his drinking and driving; fines, no license, hard to get work etc.)

I didn't say much , but I guess he is feeling pretty sorry for himself. but those are consequences he brought on himself.

He doesn't get that if you do 'a' you get 'b'?

If you play with fire you get burned. But he sees his friends so called success doing illegal stuff and having all kinds of toys etc.

He really needs to see the big picture, the eternal one.

Well, at least I listened and didn't LB. Its a start.

shul

ps: Tonight I took the night off and had fun with my daughter watching the fireworks, just the two of us. it was the first time she has seen them. She has missed out on so much. He has cheated her of so much, and he said he wanted a child so badly. He should have been there. And I realise I have been spending too much of myself on him.