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Warning it's love story - a beautiful one. A friend and I sat for half an hour after the movie talking, crying and laughing. It was soooooo good. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

All guys should go see this - it's what women want. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

How refreshing to see a movie where the spouses are true to to each other. Refreshing from Hollywood. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

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you telling me there is a movie i can see with no infidelity in it????? oh please answer yes---i am dying to go to the movies but am tired of rated g movies. LOL

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I saw it last weekend and I'm going to see it again.

I read the book years ago and cried until I was dehydrated.

I bought the book for my H and he is reading it now. This is the kind of love all couples should have. I do know it's not reality given my current situation. I'd just like to know that somewhere out there people love each other like this.

Could movies like this be why some people are never satisfied with their own marriage? I read posts on here where BS's say their WS thinks that a passionate marriage should not require work.

Anyway, this movie is the best love story ever to hit the big screen. I hope the awards come rolling in!

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Your don't think that's infidelity?!!!!

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Not infidelty?

What would you call telling her war-hero, loving, sweet fiance that she's going off for a few days, going to visit her old flame, screwing him for a couple days until her mother and fiance come to find her.

Oh, it's just lovely.

It lost me at "SAY I'm a bird"
"no"
"SAY I'M A BIRD"
"You're a bird"
"SAY you are a bird too."

And, why, when Noah had his heart attack, suddenly she no longer is dressed with make-up and wheeled outside, but in the lock-down, pajamas-only crazy ward?

And, why, do they lie to her when the kids come to visit and say they aren't hers, but his?

But, then, I thought the book was poorly written, too, but I thought since movies are nothing like the book, maybe....

I walked out shaking my head and giggling at my 16 year old daughter who was repeating "SAY I'M A BIRD."

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But there was infidelity. Not marital infidelity, but someone was very unfaithful in the context of a committed relationship.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Could movies like this be why some people are never satisfied with their own marriage? I read posts on here where BS's say their WS thinks that a passionate marriage should not require work.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah, I think that's a very good point. The movie was beautifully filmed and there was some nice chemistry between and among the actors, but there were also some pretty sappy, unrealistic moments. It was just a bit too something (syrupy sweet?) for my taste.

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Ha...Lor beat me to the reply button.

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All guys should go see this - it's what women want.

And, I forgot to add in my tirade <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> that I went with all women, 16, 18, & 24, and if anything the 18 & 24 year old thought it was worse than I did, and that the girl was unstable, especially during the break up when first she beats on him and tells him to leave, then when he does, she's yelling after him not to leave.

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I saw it from a different perspective (not having read the book - maybe there were inuendos that weren't in the movie?)


And, why, do they lie to her when the kids come to visit and say they aren't hers, but his?

I thought it was because she had alzhiemers and didn't remember that they were her kids & didn't want to get her upset (like when she and Noah had dinner & she remembered then the next moment didn't know who he was)


What would you call telling her war-hero, loving, sweet fiance that she's going off for a few days, going to visit her old flame, screwing him for a couple days until her mother and fiance come to find her.


But there was infidelity. Not marital infidelity, but someone was very unfaithful in the context of a committed relationship.

Agreed with that. Pre-marital sex though. It's amazing it has become so common place.


And, why, when Noah had his heart attack, suddenly she no longer is dressed with make-up and wheeled outside, but in the lock-down, pajamas-only crazy ward?

I took that as part of the alzhiemer's. It didn't occur to me otherwise. In the beginning of the movie, he says something to the effect that she's the only one for him. (very much paraphrased)

Just my take on it.

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I am avoiding that movie like the plague right now. I know it would upset me deeply. Can't watch love stories now. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

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I'm with Juke1225....I've been separated two years now and still can't handle love stories, especially in movies. Guess I have a long way to go towards healing. It's good that at least there are some "clean" options out there for everyone else to see, though.

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HI avondale !!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

It was my first in a long, long, long time.

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Is this by the same guy that wrote "Bridges Of Madison County"?

Just horrific...I don't understand why he's so popular.

I'm wondering...if you replace the male characters with women and the women with men, would everyone find it such a wonderful story? Or would he just be another user cheater dog?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LowOrbit:
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I'm wondering...if you replace the male characters with women and the women with men, would everyone find it such a wonderful story? Or would he just be another user cheater dog?

Low </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">hehee, you are probably dead right! This sounds like a chick movie to me. Think I will stay home and watch my Civil war movies! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Bridges is by Robert James Waller.

The Notebook is by Nicholas Sparks who has also given us Message in a Bottle (movie--Costner, Paul Newman, Elizabeth Shue), A walk to Remember (Mandi Moore), The Rescue, The Guardian.

Even if the infidelity is "only" pre-marital. The sight of her naked with her old flame, naked except for her huge rock of an engagement ring sure looked like infidelity.

Is it so much to ask of Hollywood that just once the guy or girl says, you need to or I need to break it off with the significant other before I do you.

Then Noah's regular bedmate shows up and they have supper and she says, "Allie is terrific, this has given me something to look forward to." What the--? Oh, yeah, we all know that the girlfriend meeting the new OW/old girlfriend and having dinner with her would be guh-raaate.

{edited out previous statement and adding, people sometimes see/take what speaks to them from movies/books that means something entirely different to someone else. I obviously hated the movie and the "story" that brought the alzenheimers Allie back. I can't understand why this ugliness of their youth was the "good part", when they obviously spent their lives together...having/raising children. If this was the good part she wanted to be reminded of, yikes.}

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