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I just found out a friend of mine who I havn't talked to much latly is having an A! I'm really pissed because my H and I were very close friends with them. My question is should I just let it ride and let him find out on his own? I don't want to get in the middle of the situation, but I would want someone to atleast hint at it or something if they knew. Should I just keep it to myself or maybe try and talk to one of my friends?
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I would tell so fast that her head spun! There is no way I would sit by while my friend destroyed her H behind his back. And after I called him up and told him I would call her up and chew her [censored] for putting me in that position!
I would let her know in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that I am her friend, and did this as an act of friendship and that I fully expect an apology for putting me in this position! Friends don't sit idly by while their friends destroy their own lives and those of innocent people.
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A close friend of mine and the OM told me about it last night. I think she is going to talk to the OM today because he doesn't know about her being married and her family issues. If he knew he would run like crazy.
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Well, I don't really trust 2nd hand information.
"heard it from a friend, who says no kidding, this really happened to my friend" stuff.
Since it is your friend that is supposedly having the affair, confront her. I think this information to the BS is better coming from the WS than through a friend.
If your friend confirms but will not tell, then I'd suggest you tell the BS.
If she denies, check with the person who told you.
I really don't see the positives with informing on hearsay/rumor.
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Lor is absolutely right! I thought your friend had told you herself. I would verify it before you say a word.
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I don't want to be the cause of the pain, but I can't stand to know that she is cheating on him. I will talk to her as soon as I can.
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You can always send an anonymous letter to the BS once you confirm that the affair is real.
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