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I mean really I have thought about this, it is just two people getting together feeling sorry for how bad their lives are. My S is so mean, they don't understand me, nobody listens to my needs and wants. He is so controlling, and disrespectful to me. I only have you, to indulge me in this pit of sorrow I have dug myself into. Two pitiful people escaping the reality of life instead of being strong enough and wise enough to make changes for the better in the right ways. Cheating life, cheating M, cheating vows and God's will. Feel sorry for me OM I have it so darn bad. How pathetic an A can actually be. Feeling a bit shamed tonight. Discussed by myself. I can never take back this A. I'm forever the tramp down the road, who cheated on her H. Yes, I can be forgiven, but not forgotten. I can't make my BF love me again. She is gone forever. High price to pay, for a pity partner. I know not every A is this, by mine sure was. Feeling down. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> KY
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I agree, KY. I have very little sympathy for those who wallow in self-pity.
If your marriage is THAT bad, get off your [censored] and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! Dont sit around moaning, because there are people in the world who just want a cup of clean water or another day to live.
For most of us (even BSs) life is very very good. It's just that some people need to remove their heads from wherever they are shoved up to see that.
Sorry, just a bit of a rant about the world. Obviously, we all make mistakes and I do not wish to judge and WSs out there. MB should be a place of equality!
Sending love to you, KY
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KS, could you send chocolate too, please???
Where were you a year ago, when I could have used that lecture???
Damn
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<small>[ November 06, 2004, 10:33 PM: Message edited by: cellophane. ]</small>
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You can have all my chocolate, KY, because I have discovered I am incapable of resisting it, even this close to my wedding! Unbelieveable.
Sorry KY, didnt mean to get quite so on-my-high-horse.
The important thing is *learning* from mistakes.
Lots of love xxx
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I mean really I have thought about this, it is just two people getting together feeling sorry for how bad their lives are. My S is so mean, they don't understand me, nobody listens to my needs and wants. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I read this and then went back and looked at the topic I just posted, and laughed out loud because I am having a pity party all by myself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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<small>[ November 06, 2004, 10:32 PM: Message edited by: cellophane. ]</small>
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I just made a whole batch of cookie dough for myself.
Pity party is an understatement!
I wish wish wish someone would have knocked me out PAINFULLY 6 months ago so I would never have self-destructed my marriage.
Sorry, queen of pity parties speaking.
Have to go eat all this cookie dough now.
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<<I mean really I have thought about this, it is just two people getting together feeling sorry for how bad their lives are.>>
I hear ya...not only that--but also two people (if both are married) who are blowing every problem and annoying habit that the BS has so far out of proportion, that after a while..they start to believe that 'it's ok to cheat, we deserve it after all the horrible treatment we've endured'..oh brother..gotta love that fog...
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What kind of cookie dough??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Me love cookies, yum yum yum yum,
(say it like Cookie Monster)
dreamC absolutely, I was convinced, I was justified, that it was Okay. WRONG!!!!
I was just pitiful!!!
Ooooh, getting undressed by someone half your age
Celly really!!!!! This is not "the sex thread"
Pathetic idiots we are!!!!!
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Nutters, the lot of you.
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KS, your absolutely right, Celly is nuts!!! He is on crack too. I'm feeling better today. I'm not as annoyed with myself as yesterday, but don't worry I'm sure somebody is. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> My past actions still make me sick, but I think I might have forgiven myself a bit. Or maybe it is just because all I have eaten in the past two days are plums and my brain isn't able to think of how bad of a person I really am. Funny how hunger can clear your mind. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> KY
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well, i am feeling very low today...
are you telling me i should be eating plums?
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FL haven't you heard A plum a day keeps the post A blues away. Tis true, I'm living proof. I'm sorry your down. Do you need one of my special KY licks?????? thhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhuuuuuP!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> You got one anyways, KY
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Hi everyone, Told you I could detect when chocolate is being thought of, talked about, mentioned, discussed, raved on.. In my attempts to find out how RAP is I see you have been here! Please don't stop posting on the other thread? I think I am getting on everyone's nerves keep asking you to post <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I have to log off soon. Guess I won't know unless you post soon how you 'really are'?? Kas
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i ended up having a chocolate muffin for breakfast... i should of looked for a plum instead cuz now my stomach hurts and the chocolate is not good for my head.
counsoling in 1 1/2 hours, hopefully that will help me get turned back to the right direction
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hi BV, was your post directed to me? what other thread are you talking about? the moving forward one?? i don't post there too much and i don't read all of it.
i feel like a bit of an odd-ball. i'm not in withdrawal of OM. i never had enough emotional attachment. i am also not in a situation where my H is waiting for me with open arms.
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FL, chocolate not good for your head????? Are you an alien, because I just don't understand that. BV, you are a good little sniffer. Do you seen FL taunting me with her chocolate muffin, her head hurts because God is watching out for my best interest. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and BV you aren't annoying me, with all your contstant please post, please post, I think you are funny, and a bit pathetic too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I'm worried about Rap too.
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Dear all, Am just doing a quick post… I love American muffins (especially chocolate and blueberry – not together though), I love chocolate, I adore chocolate, I want some chocolate…..now……but haven’t got any in the house…Am going to call by the garage to get some on the way to the Bible Study tonight….(Do you think that is a good idea or shall I force myself not to??) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Anyways, Hi FL. Am glad I caught up with you here. I have been thinking of you. Sorry, I guess I have just got caught up in the Moving Forward thread, and been worrying about RAP..which reminds me… RAP…please post soon please post soon please post soon please post soon FL, I really do hope your councelling session goes well for you. Please keep in touch about it. I understand that your situation did not involve emotional attachment.. Your pain in your situation and trying to move on is still real though, and I do care for you in that. I have just started reading Torn Asunder which Pep recommended. It came all the way from the USA especially for me! (At a price though!) Seriously though it is worth every penny. I have just recognized my ‘type of A’ in it. He speaks of 3 different types. I recognized mine immediately.. Class 2 A – “The entangled A” because it had a huge amount of emotional attachment.. It say on page 51: that “the entangled, or Class 11 affair is the most problematic and common form of infidelity, and one of the most stubborn to rehabilitate due to the extensive emotional involvement” Page 54 says “The affair develops slowly and gradually. They usually know each other quite well, often they work together…” “The infidel (WS) usually feels as if he/she is in love with the partner. There is a lot of emotional turmoil in this type of affair, as the WS and their partner are truly torn, as their feelings often rival those initially felt for their Spouses. That is why it is so tough to turn their situation around” He goes on to say “in fishing terms – the hook’s in deep” I guess when I read and understood exactly how deep I had let myself get into my relationship with OM, that explains why the withdrawal is so hard. My head ‘knows’ but my heart ‘struggles to accept’. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Sorry for rambling on. It is a hard thing to recognize the true reality of what I have done, and to know that because it involved emotions so much I am struggling to let go. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> I know your situation is different FL in that it was via the computer initially, but it is still a real situation to you, and your need to move on is as much as a struggle too. I know things are hard with your H too. Am glad you are still here. You have helped me loads as I have said in the past, and it was your honesty and confessing that helped me to as well. I respect you for that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Dear KY4, I can see all this ‘muffin taunting’ going on here!! What is your favourite flavour muffin and do you make or buy them in the US? What is your absolutely favourite above all favourite meal and dessert? (or should that be ‘desert’---forgot which one means the SAND one now! Well I have to go now and prepare myself for the big CHOCOLATE intake…Shame on me, especially as I worked off all those calories today… Well never mind. I will just get a small bar instead…How small?? Well…..small ish….small enough to not worry about, but big enough to give me a huge, massive, gigantic taste of lovely chocolate… <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Sorry, I think I am going a bit crazy now….. Catch you guys later… <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> RAP, <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Please post, Please post Please post Please post Kas
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