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Bumping... I'm curious as to any interesting answers for workinOnMe's question (see above) too.
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Ibiza, read this mate. I reference it in my toolkit but WORD UP on this. Its de facto
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bump for hopethisworks............
How does a divorce in progress affect your plan a or b thinking?
I am not clear who is doing the filing....
FOXOR
plan A works for all and any contact...
it also works with some little twists thrown in...
it's important for the BS to not ALWAYS be where the WS expects...
it means the BS has a dinner party or goes out with friends that usually included the WS and leaves the WS exactly what that engagement was like....
it means the BS when in contact throws in a little mystery..by a simple comment or question that tweak their interest...
something like..
'remember that good bottle of wine we had....what was the name...I wanted to get a bottle of that for a friend of mine...but can't remember where we had/got it....as a little thankyou for something....
then zippppp your lipppppppp
and no more on that subject....
see the creativity of plan A.....all the freedom of control
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here it is.....
again
for mich dad
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Last edited by ark^^; 07/26/05 07:17 AM.
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I always LOVE to see this bumped ! I always HATE to see this needed <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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great information! exactly what i've been looking for. helped me to believe that i HAVE been doing many plan A things already!
and i agree with the others-this should always be on page 1
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ark^^ can you read my thread and give me some advice? I have received a lot of great advice, and I am trying not to pursue H by excessively calling or emailing (which I have never done since H moved out three month ago anyway). OSXgirl has a good grip on how my emotions swing. My problem is I cannot be 100% confident about my plan - well if there is one! I haven't been able to stick to one plan, b/c I have minimized my contact with H and it seems he is now confortable and all of his guilt feelings are gone. You know, out of sight, out of mind. Then I get really worried and panic. I feel H is getting colder and colder.
Can you advise on my situation? I need to keep hearing from people otherwise I get nervous again.
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bumping for 2optimistic...
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BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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....bump - just read this, it is great reading about plan A. Will be reading it again - enjoy and thank you Ark <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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I just read this for the first time..
IT IS ABSOLUTELY PERFECT, ARK....
I did this stuff...
It is so true...
I pray that folks will read this, take note and follow your recommendations here...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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This was one of the key posts that sent me on my road to personal recovery, my road to becoming a better person.
It makes me said when some of the vets write that they are frustrated, tired of helping those who don't get it, those who refuse to grow, learn, help themselves.
There are a lot of differing life philosophies on this board and often the advice given for a particular situation differes greatly. And that is o.k. An intellegent adult should be able to take a look at the advice and decide whether or not it is right for them. What bothers me is when someone's opinion or philosphy is not respected or when someone disrespectfully tries to force their philosophy (or religious beliefs) on someone.
Many thanks to the many vets that have recovered or are recovering for continuing to contribute despite it all...
And a bump for an incredibly kind, healing, and helpful post...
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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bumping up for those that are getting knocked around..
and those that think they are in plan a...but really aren't...
and for those who need it....
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Bump again for white daisy....
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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