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Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155262 11/17/06 08:50 AM
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mimi_here Member M Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 15,310	And another bump..... I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here mimi_here #1155263 11/17/06 02:50 PM
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mimi_here Member M Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 15,310	Up..one more time... I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155264 12/28/06 12:58 AM
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mimi_here Member M Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 15,310	This is the post I was looking for, Sis... I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here mimi_here #1155265 01/27/07 07:16 AM
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ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	praise the LORD.. I done found it... ain't as dumb as I look....:) ARK (shuddup melody....)

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155266 02/16/07 03:28 PM
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RuncibleSpoon Member R Joined: Jan 2002 Posts: 136	UP for Bugsmom. Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. ~Benjamin Franklin~

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here RuncibleSpoon #1155267 04/13/07 10:14 AM
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ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	plan a ... is not for the weak hearted...nor is it for anyone that wants an instant gain or return... maybe plan a should be viewed sometimes as a negotiator....like the kind used when some wacko is holed up in his apartment...with a lighter in one hand and a can of gas in the other... the negotiators bigger goal...no matter what the topic..is to keep the line of communication open... the pay off or goal during this time is not the wackos (insert alien vision here )surrender..though that is the end goal...the negotiators bigger goal is to keep contact...and conversation flowing...some meaningful..but I bet a lot of it's not.... a lot of a conversation between a wacko and negotiator....probably doesnt make much sense..and most likely is not very honest....and probably is a lot of babble...of things that can't be changed...but the negotiator's job is NOT to react NOT to powerstuggle NOT to win a point arguement or even care if the wacko likes him or her... the goal is keep the line of communication open... plan a is all about that sometimes... fluff fluff..while inside you are dying to talk to your rational spouse.... but when you force that issue...the WS withdraws...and just starts threatening to flick the bic....and blow it all up... view every interaction with your WS while in plan a...as a goal of keeping communication open.. which doesn't mean you talk for hours...sometimes it all about short conversations...but always try to leave the WS thinking ARK

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155268 04/13/07 10:16 AM
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ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> seriously though..is anyone else as sick of seeing this post as I am.....

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155269 04/13/07 10:27 AM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	no I enjoy your ~crapola supreme~ LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here Pepperband #1155270 04/13/07 10:28 AM
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ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	will you marry me... sometimes mr ark gets too full

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155271 08/06/07 05:45 PM
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ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	pushing it up people please please remember these very very VERY important things about plan A 1. It is done with expectation that there is contact (not a typo) done with full disclosure that you think assume know there is contact.... 2...and most importantly... the factor that frees you to even DO plan A,.... is the absence of nothing nadda zip zippity zip big fat zero nadda nitch zero squared zero cubed zero to the enth degree.... of EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR NEEDS BEING MET... that is why plan A is done for short period... cause it is draining and emotionally sucks.. (hear that big sucking sound in the back ground....???) that's a really good plan A,...... does any one NOT understand this... (some of you don't ...) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> which is why some of you are in so much more pain... no expectations is the most freeing aspect of plan A.. and lets you expend all energy on keeping communication open keeping attention...(even when it's for that old ugly habit of yours to rear their ugly little head...) keeping the creativity flowing whisper your plan A... it can be deafening... ARK^^

Re: plan a tips and musings...get grounded here ark^^ #1155272 10/12/07 11:44 AM
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ark^^ Member A Joined: Sep 2001 Posts: 5,906	^^ for littlebit....

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