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My wife is having an affair. I have tried to talk to her about it and tell her how I feel and she says yea yea I've that all before. 2nd affair in 1 year. I am nice to her and compliment her and let her know I love her. I do not probe her about our future. Although she says that she needs her space and I should move on but she does not know if she wants to divorce . She still loves me but not in love with me she says that we are like brother and sister. We cannot afford another place to live so we were going to make the garage into a room and I would live in there of course. She is gone 3 to 4 nights a week working night shift at the hospital. I know she is there because I know what she works and how much she makes. I am good about giving her space and minding my own business and that makes it easier. I get different advice about separation- some say yes and no. The guys at New Life Live say garage bad idea but pastor says do not separate.New Life says she needs consequences for her actions. Others says stay put and love your wife and love her back. Really Confused It is hard to live here knowing what she is doing. She does not care if I know. I said something today about a picture I found of him and she said it is none of my business because I said I would stay out of it >I know she is feeling awful. She said that her life is upside down and she does not know which direction she is going. Major Fog. If I live with her I feel she will loose respect for me and I feel like a chump and doormat. Feel like I need to get some respect. Help Help.If I am nice to her and love her it surpresses her guilt but if I mention some things about the affair she feels guilty. I kinda of like her feeling guilty kinda makes feel bad about what she is doing otherwise it seems that she does not although I know she is . How can you live like and not feel bad about it.Feels like it breaks through the fog. lsu_la@yahoo.com <small>[ July 06, 2004, 08:57 PM: Message edited by: swimming alone ]</small>
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Start in Plan A. Also read Ark's post here. She is an expert.
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I will bump it to the top.
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