am new to this site within the last two days. I am trying to fix what I have done. This last weekend (july 4) my wife was looking at my e-mail account. She found a sent mail to someone I met on line. Enclosed in the e-mail was an erotic story and an adult pic of me. She felt like she was going to throw up. Her entire life has been turned upside down. Instead of coming clean I tried to lie my way out. (making things worse) So now it is day three, my wife has said we will get through this. I feel like i am looking over a huge black abyss, and walking into it. Every step I take I am lucky that there is ground below me.

I would like to know that there are others that have recovered. I just found this site yesterday. have not read the books yet. but I will. What I am looking for is how to recover, how do I earn back what I took for granted in our relationship. How do I work through this?

This is my first ever post to a forum. So we will see how it works. My basic bios are:
I am 35 wife is 33, we have three kids under 11 her two daughters and my son. have dated since 2001 and were married in June 2003.

I know we will recover, but this is sooooo very hard. Thanks for your feedback.

Hello screwedupinAZ,

Welcome to MB.

First I would like to ask: did you have an issue with inappropriate behavior using the web before you got married or was this a first time event? Was the picture sent to another woman you have known for a long time or when did this contact begin? Do you feel like this is an emotional affair you are having with this online person?

O