Hi everyone,
I am confused.As everyone knows WW has been gone 6 months July 23,2004. as I said In my last post. WW said last week that she is now in love with OM.She just talked to me and met me because she felt sorry for me and she feels guilty for what she has done to me. We have a 10 yr old D together. Which I have had all but five nights in the past 2 months..


yesterday when I dropped off our D, I seen our cat that she took with her when she left lying dead in the road. (OM's appartment is right on the road)They kept cat on porch because OM did not want it in his house anymore, (as of last month). WW called me last month to ask if I would take cat back.****ting all over OM house..LOL.....They have had a many of fights over the cat. He threaten to throw WW and D out one nite because cat peed in shower.2 months ago.As soon as I saw the cat I called WW on phone and D answered told me that WW did not want to talk. I told D that it was important...
When WW got on phone I told her that Otis was dead and lying in the road. She freaked out and started to cry as she looked out the window. I took cat to the tree line behind OM's house.WW came out and told me to leave......I told WW that I did not want D to see cat like this.....WW got ****ty and told me to get the Fuc#@$ off of (Her) property. I finished digging the whole in 5 minutesand WW said she was going in to get some things to put in the grave with cat.I cover up the cat.When she got back she put the things in and I told her I would go. she then said thanks.......

1 hour later she called and appolaguised for saying what she said and thanked me . She said she could never had dug it by herself...Later I called to speak to D and WW got on and told me that OM was pissed because I carried cat over to woods. ( he didnot know I dug the hole.)D told me later that OM was pissed because she buried it on his property.She also made OM a sandwich and he told her he didnot want it.What an [censored]!!!!

Today WW was real cold on the phone. She told me that she was keeping D Thursday until saturday at 4:pm I told her that I was invited too a party SAT at 1:00 pm she said well I was invited too a party to and she is going with me..I said real nicely, that is fine and I will leave that up to you and D.. Well now I am alittle depressed......D said she would rather come home with me those nights How do we tell WW. I told D to tell her..........Plus do you write a letter when you start PLAN A........Some days I am ready to give up..............

Should I tell other man my intentions.Do I give her any info. Do I give her a letter????Or do I just start acting as if.............

Plan A is just the actions that you do. You don't tell the other person or your wife. You just act calm, polite, and pleasant.

Don't expect your wife to respond, it takes awhile.

Frank,

In addition to Believer's post, please read a post about plan A by Ark.

Ark's Plan A info

Read it through and then ask your questions. You will also want to find out if you need to be in plan A or B. IMHO, you need to be in plan A a bit more but your W's current actions (even about the cat and your daughter's safety) may require you do a bit more than just plan A.

Are you able to have a phone counseling session with Steve @ MB?

JMHO,

L.

I think I have been doing plan A In the past couple weeks. She has been real nice here lately.The past couple months

But R U doing a good plan A? Need to kinow Frank, not think or guess. Her treatment of you has nothing to do with Plan A. Plan A is about you and your personal improvements. Plan A is designed to help you become the one who the WS wants to come back to. Plan A is about you finding out how to be the best you can be and be satisfied with it.

Please read Ark's thread again. Also what about MC sessions?

L.

I have made alot of chages in the last 5 1/2 ,months.She keeps saying" you never did that for me...........

She keeps saying" you never did that for me...........
And then you should reply, "you're right, I didn't and I apologize.
But I am now learning some things about relaitonships and how I SHOULD have been doing these things."