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My wife usually call me from work evernight. I know she calls the guy she is running around with from work also. I was going to tell her tonight not to call me anymore from especially before or after she talks to him. I am in plan A and I did not know if I should recieve calls because it is good time to talk and share or put up boundaries....... Why does WW get so made at me. I have a hard time understanding this.I guess exposure brings wrath but still does not make any sense
<small>[ July 08, 2004, 07:52 PM: Message edited by: swimming alone ]</small>
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In plan A, you should be letting her call you, and be pleasant.
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Thanks but what about the anger toward me. I feel like a chump
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Yes, we all feel like chumps. That is the way it is. When I first found this site, I thought it was a bunch of baloney. But it is proven to work.
It will take awhile for her to change, so don't expect anything.
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When I know she lying about something should I let her know that I know....I know why you left early for work. ....I know you paycheck was short on hours..I know where you were.. Is this a love buster
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I found that when I confronted my WW with things that I know to be true she would become very hostile. But I will never allow her to think she is getting anything by me. To this day I maintain a safe full of stuff that has surfaced between them. I do feel that my W wanted me to know for the simple fact of hurt. I would confront her but KEEP IN MIND YOU ARE IN HOSTILE NEGOTATIONS. That is were you need to keep it soft and not allow her's or your emoins to front. The first emmotoin from her will be to protect.
I just started this as well. I have Delt with Hostile Neg. for about 10 yrs now. You must first build them up and then you have room to wittle.
"All we have is the light at the end of the tunnel"
My prayers for you.
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