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OM just blocked our phone.....Should I keep D tommorrow from mom.......I was sappose to drop off D in morning before work.I am doing plan A.I was going to tell WW that we tryed to call but the phone was blocked..........What do ya think...Or should I make like I don't care........What if something happens to D how do I get in contact........My cell phone is still not blocked ..OM can't block that....
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I'm sorry Franked, I don't know enough of your story to know the right answer. Does your WW live with the OM?
Did he block your home # from reaching his home #?
Does your w know this?
Are you in Plan A with your w living with the OM?
If that is the case, why do you have to drop D off in the morning? do you go to the OM's house to do this?
Too many questions, I just could not answer without having an idea of the situation.
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sigh......... Frank, why are you sending a 10 yr old child into an OM's house AT ALL where she is exposed to your W's sleazy affair? She even gets to hear all about how the OM and her M screwed for 2 hours the night before. Why are you sending your D into this mess?
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Yes he blocked so We can't call there.......WW and D still can call here......
He had the phones blocked before from 04/25/04 to 05/24/04 WW changed that after we had a talk.I called there at 4:00 pm to talk about sons birthday.......He answered and I hung up...........LOL........what a jerk
Yes D called on cell phone and WW was talking to someone else.D asked WW why OM did that and WW told D she would tell her tommorrow.........
YES WW is living with OM since 01/23/04 I drop off D in morning so I can work....Plus D likes it that way.I pick her up when I get off.Yes it is at OM house...He is at work......
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OK, that answers all the questions except one. How in the world are you in Plan A if your W is living with the OM? How are you able to meet her needs or work on reconsiling your relationship? How old is your D? She SHOULD NOT be in this situation. Are you legally seperated? If so, what are the conditions for custody of the children? If the OM is at work and you leave for work, why does your W NOT come to your house to watch your D? It is her D's home, she would be much more comfortable there and not be involved in the affair as she is currently by staying at the OM's house. I know that sounds like your w would have to put other's needs before herself and apparantly she is not doing this. I am very sorry... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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ML, D wants to go there during the day while I work ........We have no leagle papers telling who has who. OM is not there when D is there...I do keep a calender of all events since day one.......I want to make it work but I also did not want to stir the pot.........I was not going to send D tommorrow......What do you think??????
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I wouldn't put up with it...
...just me...
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LS58, Thats is what I was told to do go to plan A.........I thought buy being nice!!!!!!!!!!! D is 10 yrs old.....We have no legal papers on anything.....I have had D all but 6 days in three months........NIGHTS......She is not allowed to come up here or have any contact with me......He is 25 yrs old an imature......
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by frankd:
<strong> ML, D wants to go there during the day while I work ........We have no leagle papers telling who has who. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Frank, don't ever send your D back there. I think that you don't need legal papers to keep your D safe from this very inappropriate situation. Your W would have a huge problem getting any judge to allow her to come into the OM's home. You MUST stir the pot when it comes to your D. It is YOUR JOB.
And I don't give a DAMN what your D wants, that does not absolve you of your responsibility as a parent. Children want all sorts of things that are bad for them, it is the job of the parent to protect them.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by frankd:
<strong> LS58, Thats is what I was told to do go to plan A.........I thought buy being nice!!!!!!!!!!! D is 10 yrs old.....We have no legal papers on anything.....I have had D all but 6 days in three months........NIGHTS......She is not allowed to come up here or have any contact with me......He is 25 yrs old an imature...... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Where is your W's legal paper to take her daugher into the OM's house where she is having a sleazy affair and bragging to the daughter how she screwed the OM for 2 hours the night before? Where is that legal paper, Frank?
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you are right.........I will keep D tomorrow.
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Thank you. Now what about next week, Frank?
Do you agree this is a horrible situation for your D to be in? She should NEVER be around this sleaze. Letting her go over there only allows your W to normalize her sleazy affair, at your daughter's expense.
Your daughter needs to see you stand up and say THIS IS WRONG! Or she will not know right from wrong when she grows up! She will have no moral foundation and NO MORAL COURAGE, Frank! Show her that you love her so much that you will protect her from this wrongdoing, that you will take a stand like a MAN. Please Frank...
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ML I will take your advice. I do agree with you.......
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This post reminds me of our situation. I've wondered if I was doing the right thing... My dumba$$ WH wants me to let him take the 2 older boys. I say, sure, as long as OW is not around AT ALL. He gets pissed and says I am keeping the kids away from him. Whatever...what a jerk! These OP are sleazy dirtbags and there is no way my kids will be around her as long as I have life left in my body!
PS- Our MC and of course MB also agrees with me, thank goodness.
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I hope WW will come out of her fog......WW and D used to be so close
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Well, while she's living in the fog on Fantasy Island, I agree with the other parents here that your D should be left out of it. Perhaps some time away from your D will help her to snap out of her fog, at least long enough to see that she hasn't only hurt you but your D as well by not being there for her. If you're afraid that keeping your D away from her mother is going to make your WW angry at you and make her turn against you...I think it's time to start worrying about yourself and the healthy people in your life don't you? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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I feel your pain regarding the kids... Our 2 year-old was a few weeks from potty-training himself and stopped in his tracks when WH moved out. He adores his father so much... The 7 year-old had a really hard time with anger at school. Thank God for his absolutely wonderful teachers, who supported him (and me, too).
The thing that really kills me, is that we all become second-best, second-class, second-choice to the OP. It's sickening.
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I agree with ya all........And it is a shame.!!!!!!!!1WW and D were always so close.....
I think this would be what would finaly make my WW see the light........
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