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#1156474 07/09/04 08:48 AM
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Day 3

Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery -- Luke 16:18.

A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law. There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God. Although the laws of the land may grant a divorce, yet they are husband and wife still in the Bible light, according to the laws of God.

I saw that Sister Jones, as yet, has no right to marry another man; but if she, or any other woman, should obtain a divorce legally on the ground that her husband was guilty of adultery, then she is free to be married to whom she chooses -- Testimonies on Sexual Behaviour, Adultery, and Divorce, p. 78, 79.


In Gods eyes there is only one marital sin which constitutes Divorce. ADULTERY!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law. There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God. Although the laws of the land may grant a divorce, yet they are husband and wife still in the Bible light, according to the laws of God.

I saw that Sister Jones, as yet, has no right to marry another man; but if she, or any other woman, should obtain a divorce legally on the ground that her husband was guilty of adultery, then she is free to be married to whom she chooses -- Testimonies on Sexual Behaviour, Adultery, and Divorce, p. 78, 79.

In Gods eyes there is only one marital sin which constitutes Divorce. ADULTERY!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It would be nice if you post a quote to state the source. Or would that taint the reader's opinion of the quote?

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To me this says if a a spouse sleeps with someone else, it is at that moment that the BS is free from the wedding vows (IN GODS EYES). Thus the only true genuine justification for divorce! Under Gods laws. (Thou shall not commit adultery)

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He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, (EXCEPT IT BE FOR FORNICATION), and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery -- Matthew 19:8, 9.

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Again...please state the source of the quote in your initial post to this thread.

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#1156480 07/09/04 09:14 AM
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Thank You. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Eric / Plumb/ or anyone else:

A question:

Since a man (or woman) can commit adultery solely "In their Heart" (In God's eyes), is THIS type still grounds for a Divorce?

Just curious as to the opinions on that.

#1156482 07/09/04 09:27 AM
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top,

Quoting Matthew 19:8 9,

Except for fornication!
I would assume this means any form of fornication.

#1156483 07/09/04 09:34 AM
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Has anyone considered that the Bible, while Divinely inspired, was written by MEN, at a time when women were viewed on about the same level as livestock? They were possessions. They had no rights. Their obligation was to serve their husband.

So, if Jesus were here today, and he came upon a woman who had been beaten daily by her H, who had also beaten and abused ber children, and she had divorced him, and remarried a man who was a loving, devoted husband and father, would he chastise her and rebuke her? Would He lecture her about how she had violated God's law, and how that was more important than her obligation to protect her self and her children, which are creations of God. Do you believe that Christ would tell this woman to stop living "in sin" with her second H, and to return to her first?

I don't. But that's JMO.

Bob

#1156484 07/09/04 09:39 AM
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Plumb,,,

I thought of that myself while reading the scripture. I myself believe Wife battery as a form of fornication. Hence Gods compassion to the wife and children. JMO

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If in Gods eyes the only way to have a marriage annulled is when is was never "consumed" (=sex) or if the only reason to be able to get a divorce is fornication (=sex) I would say such a "God" is indeed considering M to be only about sex and the results of that (children, lifestock indeed, inheritance by children you can prove are yours). That sounds very much about economics and very little about love and being a Christian (or any other religion for that matter that is based on love and respect and forgiveness).

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a) Sin is inevitable.

b) Christ died, on the Cross, to save us from our sins.

What was the question? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

#1156487 07/09/04 10:49 AM
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I dont think this is about sin
this is more to put in perspective Gods view of a man and wife. It does not just apply to the wife it applies to both spouses.
I thought it was good to post it for all who think an affair is harmless or just a game spouses play. Ofcorse we are all sinneres but the bible states while couple divorce under the law of the land they may not be divorced in his eyes.
God only releases the vows in the case of adultery. Plumb makes the best point with the abusive spouse. Is abuse adultery? What is the exact definition of adultery.
Furthermore it does not state that God does not allow reconciliation between adulterous couples. It simply states that under God he views adultery as the greates sin one spouse can commit. In Gods eyes this is the only release of the marital vows.

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Eric,

I appreciate your zeal, and your willingness to share your belief.

It makes me personally uncomfortable, however, when someone starts talking for God. You keep saying things like...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> In Gods eyes there is only one marital sin which constitutes Divorce. ADULTERY! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">and

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> In Gods eyes this is the only release of the marital vows. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So, uhmm, unless you've been having a conversation with a burning bush, you may want to rephrase the way you state your opinion at times. It might be hindering others from responding.

Again, JMO.

Bob

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I thought it was good to post it for all who think an affair is harmless or just a game spouses play.
Who here thinks that?

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PLumb,,
Go back and read the second post I clearly state what this says to me,,,, that is way harsh to insinuate that I am speaking for God. I am only translating what it means to me. You have the right to say what it means to you. Not intended to offend anyone. Maybe if I re clarify to everyone that this is how I myself interperate this scripture. In other words my opinion.

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I myself believe Wife battery as a form of fornication
Huh?

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Chris ca123,

I said that based on the result from space case thread on infidelity on news week,, read it, I dont think anyone here believes that but the article insinuates that adultery is just a part of todays society. It more or less says to me that adultery is part of our way of life.

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chris ca 123,

I myself believe Wife battery as a form of fornication
Huh?

I can see how I sounded pretty ignorant with that remark,,,
the truth is I do not know the exact definition or meaning of fornication. What does it mean to fornicate?

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