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I don't know about anyone else, but even when I know my husband is lying, I find myself(against my better judgement), wanting to believe him. It isn't simply because<BR>he's had so much practice, and is a master<BR>at lying. (He looks me straight in the eyes<BR>and doesn't even blink). It's because I would rather believe the lie than deal with the pain of truth. <BR>How does anyone else feel about this?
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Yes....<P>I go from one extreme to the other, there are times when I don't believe a word he says, then others when I accept his lies hook line and sinker....<P>I think it's not the person lying, it's the person be lied too, I'm a coward I've concluded, and those areas that may change my life, I accept the lie out of fear....<P>Just my own take on why I do this.....<P>I think this because, when something comes up, that I should question, but I'm afraid of the answer, I just don't ask....<P>I'm not sure how to get past this one....<BR>Look forward to others helping us out on this!<P>
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I feel the exact same way about my W. It hurts me so much that lying means nothing to her, she is so convincing, that i want to believe her, but its my gut instinct that doesn't trust her, and my instinct is almost always right. I'm sorry to here your husband is like her, because i know how much it hurts.<P>God Bless-erik
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Thank you for reminding me how the OM was able to look me (and others) straight in the eye, not flinch ... and LIE LIE LIE.<P>The only thing worse is that I FELL FELL FELL.
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I would much rather deal with the truth ALL the time, and know it was the truth....so tired of believing things, only to find out later it was a heap of ****. Who knows what the truth is anymore. Truth is no more painful than lies in the long run...heck, we all make mistakes, it's taking responsibility for them, and not hiding behind them that's important in my book.
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I made myself try to believe a lie for 13 years, until I was finally miserable enough to force the issue. I guess it's our way of psychologically protecting ourselves until we're strong enough to deal with it.
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All of the above is true. after 15 years of being with the same man, 2 months ago I found out that for 6 years he has been lying. I look back to the years when I wasn't suspicious and remember saying:<P>"why do you smell like smoke?"<BR>answer - oh, I don't know, I shouldn't.<P>"have you been drinking, did you go out after work or something?"<BR>answer - no, it must have been something I ate<P>The hardest part is that it tool me 14 years to fihure out this guy is a liar...it is going to be so very hard to trust another man. you begin to doubt if you are capable of judging someones character.
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