My goodness how life can really throw you for a loop sometimes... I have always believed in my husband. Never doubted his whereabouts or what he was doing. He travels for business; some years more than others, he even goes on a golf trip once a year with the guys. This year on his annual golf trip he hooked up with a whore paid $80 and had a grand ole time. He came home and acted as if nothing happened for two weeks. Then crying, he told me what he had done because he suspected he caught an STD. He actually thought he was dying. I think he had a nervous breakdown. I felt bad for him because of the way he was acting. I never had the chance to get really mad! I took him to doctors (there was no way he could drive). I stayed by his side and found comfort in his arms. I really, really do love him. Anyhow, all tests came back negative and he's on antidepressants now.

Here's my problem I believe I only found out because he started not to feel so good. The infectious disease doctor said he could have had the clap and started us on antibiotics, and this may have cleared up by the time he took the proper blood tests, that need 60 days to show.
Could I have been a fool all these years? Could every trip he took have had this or something like this happening? How do I over come the doubt? He swears that nothing like that has ever happened, but I know that if he felt fine I would have never known!

I thought we had a good life, with its ups and downs but never thought infidelity would enter our marriage. We have a healthy and very active sex life and enjoy each others company. We were even going to a fertility doctor to try and have more children! We go on dates when our son is out. We watch movies, ball games, go for walks, try new restaurants and even play golf together. How could this happen? How can I ever forget? Every time I think of him with someone else it turns my stomach.

Is everyone doing this? He takes that golf trip with 16 or 17 other guys, most married. All did what he did. Does this happen all the time? Is our marriage a lie? It's been one month since I found out and about 2 weeks since all tests are negative. In the interim his sister her children and his dad have visited and stayed with us. I haven't had time to really get mad! I feel I should be really angry. We’ve been married for almost 20 years. I still can't believe he did this, but now I question all the time away. All the little signs, staying over an extra night so the company could save on plane far, stopping in Vegas for a night on a business trip to California. I don't know how to handle this. This is the first real heart break I have ever had. My best friend betrayed me. Help!!!