I'm so confused I don't know what I should do! My H and OW have been in NC for about a month and a half....which was when she was in town for a group thing with her son.

Well I found out that this group that her son is in might be coming back into town this coming weekend and in Sept. I want to know if she's going to be here for the simple fact I don't trust her and I still don't trust my H.

I want to email her and ask her if in fact she's going to be here but I'm not sure if that's such a good idea. I don't have other way of finding out if she's coming....what should I do? I don't want to give her a reason to contact my H, I just don't know.....god I hate this!

It sucks that we are the ones that have to "tip toe" around the situation, I feel I should be able to call her up or send an email and say hey look, this info got back to me are you going to be in town or not without having to worry about if she does call H he'll get pissed because I contacted her.....

What should I do? Any good ideas?

Take a few deep breathes and go find something better to do.

Can you find out the roster of who will be attending from someone else?

If you know when the event is, can you and your H plan to be out of town?

There are other ways of dealing with this than contacting the OW.

L.

Unfortunately there isn’t a way of finding out who is on the roster, I’d be doing that in a heart beat if possible. We are actually leaving Sunday to go out of town camping for the week, but that still leaves Friday and Saturday….

I guess I should put some trust in him and hope that if she does try and contact him he’ll tell me. He’s been really good about telling me when she was calling him, I just have that doubt in the back of my head….

It just really burns me sometimes that I am the one that has to mind my P’s and Q’s. Why is that anyway? Why is it that we are the ones that have to bite our tongue and let the cards play as they will? I just don’t get that at all?