This sounds familiar to me. During the affair my WH was having with my best friend(ex friend) he was telling me that maybe I should get a little closer to this guy at work. WH and I worked in the same office and our new boss was getting real friendly with me. I didn't realize it but WH and I were drifting apart. Before I knew it apparently he was having an affair and I got used to him not talking to me. The OW was calling me and asking about the boss and telling WH how I felt about him. All I was doing was talking with him, he is a really nice guy and I could tell tried not to make innappropriate advances but sometimes we would just talk and talk. So my best friend who was sleeping with her H best friend for 4 years was telling me to have an affair also. She said there is nothing like it. I thought she was so busy with her OM it didn't occur to me that she or my H would betray me like this. Until... we would get together as usual and she started sitting on my H lap and just keep getting so close and touchy feely, I told my H it wasn't cool, he denied it and she (works in a dr office) started giving me samples of an anti-depressant/anxiety drug. She tried to make it sound like I asked her for the samples but after the 3rd phone call about it I said I didn't ask for these, what's up? Then WH asked me a couple times if I took them. They had some plan!! I even met with her for happy hour and she said to me "I can't believe you think I would want your husband" I told her since she was doing Bob and she is good friends with his wife and she kept sitting on his lap, etc. it was starting to add up. She actually cried and said "I feel like walking out of here right now" I apologized to her!!!! He had told me 2 weeks before this that he met someone but wouldnt tell me who. So the more I thought about it...when I called her to cry on her shoulder that my H was seeing someone else she just didn't have time to talk to me, then kept calling his cell phone when we were together and I had my cell phone and they tried to say she was looking for me, it just added up. I told him I wanted a D. He actually threatened suicide. I have since found out he told her he wanted to divorce me. Funny in a way because when I called her crying about him threatening suicide I wonder what she thought. (Not funny at the time!!) Anyway.... It has been 2 1/2 months and he was out of the house for 2 weeks. He called and begged for me to talk to him on my machine several times a day. Finally I talked to him and had my mind made up, already seen the lawyer and drew up the papers. He wanted another chance, cut off all ties with her and her husband, wanted to be the husband and father he realized he never was, wanted to put me and the kids first, etc. I finally gave him another chance and so far (by God's grace) he is doing a really good job. He is spending almost all his time with us. His cell phone hardly rings at all. He never goes outside to talk. We are still seeing a marriage counselor and our pastor is coming over once a week. I am praying about it and I am hopeful it will turn out good. I am trying to be the best wife I can be as well. So there is hope for all of us!!!
