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WW was home for a while tonight. I was in Plan A mode <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . She said she would only be home until 6-year old went to bed and then back to her friends house. She said she was thinking she didn't want to go to counseling tomorrow. Said she thought it wouldn't help any and that she was maybe thinking she didn't really want to work it out after all. Kind of ruined Plan A <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .
Said she WILL be moving her stuff out by mid-August, and she will likely be staying with her friend until then. Then we get into a little argument about the counseling and that leads to a bigger argument about some bills and money. Some days, I wonder if maybe I should just let her go and be done with her.
I cannot for the life of me think what it was that I did or did not do that could have her so filled with - is hate too strong of a word? - that she can't even stand to be in the same room as me for more than 30 seconds <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> . Our life together was never that bad, ever. Sure needs might not have been met, but to be at that level? There was never any abuse or anything evil like that. For crying out loud, she leaves the children with me, I can't be that bad. I have no idea <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> .
I think most of her problem is her "friends". Every day she spends with them, she gets farther and farther away from me. Plan B might not be to far away <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I cannot for the life of me think what it was that I did or did not do that could have her so filled with - is hate too strong of a word? - that she can't even stand to be in the same room as me for more than 30 seconds . Our life together was never that bad, ever. Sure needs might not have been met, but to be at that level? There was never any abuse or anything evil like that. For crying out loud, she leaves the children with me, I can't be that bad. I have no idea .</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's not what you did, L@E93 - it's what she is doing!! She knows deep down what she is doing is so wrong but she is projecting the anger & hate onto you and by rewriting your M. Typical WS fogese!!
And having "friends" that do not support moral decision-making is certainly making it worse IMO.
Keep Plan A in place, try not to LB and maybe she will come to her senses before you need to implement PLan B. Hang in there!! Frags
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