Yesterday, she couldn't say two words to me without gritting her teeth <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> .

This afternoon and early evening she was home again to see the 6-year old. We all had dinner at BK together and came back home to play a couple games. She was nice and pleasant <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . I was nice and pleasant and again in Plan A mode <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> . We actually got along tonight. We didn't talk much, but we talked about a few things that set us off last night (bills and her moving out) but we both remained calm and collected. She even offered to give me $5 (all she had on her) if I needed it since I spent all my money on dinner at BK. Of course she's gone again now, but what a change from last night.

I had noticed she had begun packing up all her scrapbook stuff. She said something like "Yea, one of these days I'll get around to putting more pages together and have you write on them."

What? Where did that come from? Did I hear her right? Its been a couple years since we last did scrapbooking together. She always put the pictures and stuff on the pages and I would write the captions. Now she wants (or is at least pretending to want) me to do something with her? Some recreational companionship? Is she serious? "Yea, let me know when" was my answer.

She then, kind of sarcasticly, said it might be "a couple years" before she gets to it since she will not have a lot of time when school starts again.

Didn't really know how to take it. Was she serious? Or was she just saying that to be nice since I noticed she had it all packed up?

Oh, you are too new in this. Who knows what they think, or what they mean. Stick with us and we will help you through this.

I have learned that what ever my WH says usually means the exact opposite of however I interpreted it, good or bad. Don't read too much into anything it will drive you crazy.

Ditto!

The fog causes severe brain dysfunction. I wouldn't believe much of what she says, sorry. She is probably trying to ease guilty feelings by mentioning past joys. Maybe she is starting to waffle, which is always a good sign.

I've come to think that it seems she has almost become bipolar. I'm not a doctor, so I may be way off. And I'm not trying to offend anyone who is bipolar.

It's just that sometimes she's in a good mood and okay to be around and sometimes it's a complete opposite. She hasn't waivered on the moving out part though no matter which mood she is in.

Geez, I've thought the same thing about my WH. He was in MANIC mode (living on the adrenalin rush, not really sleeping, life revolves around OW, etc.) and is just starting to come down (I think). Split personality also comes to mind, since he is a completely different person now.

Alas, it is all just the fog. Oh, how I hate the fog.

Listen to believer about moving back in. No way without a No Contact agreement and letter, plus commitment to rebuild. Let her sleep in her car for awhile.

Yeah good ol' fog talk. Before I found out about the A my FWW acted so odd that I thought she had had a nervous break down or something. I honestly looked into having her committed. Of course now that I know more about OM I'm almost positive that she did lose her mind.

Anyway we are about 6 weeks into REAL recovery and I still see some of the fog but it is lifting. I tell her now some of the things she said and I can tell she truly does not remember them. I told her I thought OM had Jedi mind tricked her.

Not much help but wanted to let you know others have been there and worked through it.

Have a good one and always remember that IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!