freeze your WS's account in your love bank to keep from losing anymore love units while he/she is still in the A, wants to move out, and sometimes just isn't pleasant to be around?

I was at the bank yesterday opening a new account in just my name. The bank employee, female, was about my age, fairly attractive and very friendly. I know the friendly part is part of her job, but it sure was a good feeling to talk to someone who was smiling and nice. She deposited some love units.

I'm wondering how long it will be before my WW's account is overdrawn and I am looking elsewhere for my emotional needs. It's kind of scary. Right now I would like my wife back, I still feel love for her and want to keep the family together. I don't want to look elsewhere for happiness, but I'm afraid there may be a day, not soon, when this could really get bad. I keep praying for the strenght to endure this, and so far it seems to be helping.

IMO, when you are around her a lot and she is acting nuts your lovebank can dry out real quick. I haven't been around my WW because she moved right away, but when we were talking every couple days my LB was almost gone because of her awful behavior. Figure out what gets mean spirited reactions out of her and stop doing it if u can. That is all can really say. Hang in there.

I would think that my love bank for her would be wiped out by now. But I still want her back.

Don't know if things will improve when she moves out. She will have her own place, she intends to work at a full time job (to pay for apartment, jeep, & school), she intends to finish her last year of nursing schoo (also full time), and she wants to also be able to have her social life with her friends. Where will time fit in for us to get that feeling back?

Seems like some of the posters here are months or years into this and still are not together with their WS. How do you find the strength to go on? I'm sure it is different for everyone, but even with prayer, I don't know how long I can wait.

SAA arrived today. I will be reading tonight.