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having a crazy time....need some grounding......
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Any thoughts of going to Plan B?
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I don't understand the problem as it is now...
You mentioned ladies chat .... I don't communicate well on chat..... so that's not an option for me.
Diagram your current dilemma.....
What is your goal?
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Plan B is a quasi stich Chris- unles I file for D which I DO NOT WANT- I have to handle alot of things with h on my own. business- etc... so we do not communicate except for that.
8 weeks gone. very little contact. business convo yesterday- asked about kids- same answer from me- they will not hear your name-you know their answer- come home or be gone forever from them. they are strong and magnificent and right now they are not yours. said he wanted some clothes- he left with nothing. I asked do you want everything- MOVING OUT? he said NO! I am not moving OUT- I just need something to wear. he said leave it out and I will get it. my answer is no way- I am not running a slum where you drive by in the night and snatch stuff off the porch. make a plan- do NOT just show up at my door. the convo was quiet and civil- I cried but talked thru it- the business issue was a heartbreaker for both of us. I just don't understand....I told him I know i need to let him go- until he is the man I remember and is lost- where did you go???? he said I am right here. but he is LOST. why not just DECIDE>? everything he thought he didn't have.,,,he is losing. everything he has now is just what he ran from- new bills- new kid- etc....
I just need to talk......thanks ladies for listening....you know how it is......
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Do feel you "should be" doing something you are not currently doing?
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Hi Sprez.... how about just a simple hug of understanding for now? (((((Sprezzatura)))))
Ya, the whole thing is "crazy making." I remember all too well.
Hang in there, you are doing just "fine." I know, it just doesn't seem like it to you but believe me, your husband is feeling it and his emphatic rejection of "Moving Out" is a good indication of it. He's procrastinating, but he also knows that either he has to make a difficult decison, or you will make one. But there's not "denying" or "excusing" the situation.
In short, what you are doing is working. Feeling the "consequences" of his actions and decisions is the intial impact of "reality" that he needs. Just as it takes the Sun a while to burn off the fog, so it will take reality a while to penetrate his fog and get to "clear thinking."
God bless.
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Foreverhers and Pep-
who sows an uncommon seed will reap an uncommon harvest. The seeds I sow will be obedient. I will give what I want to receive -LOVE-and wait on the Lord. Words that issue from my mouth will be from the heart I give to God.
everyday I appreciate your hugs and prayers for restoration and your posts.
thank you and may God richly Bless YOU
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h moving out tonite- please pray for us
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need someone to talk to............
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Where's he going?
What's he taking with him?
What does he say about his leaving?
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just an email-coming for my clothes. I returned with a phone msg.- call and make a plan. if hes in a hurry I won't be here. we need to talk. business- home-kids-
AWOL for 8 weeks- gotta talk. hasn't called yet. any advice welcome......
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Sprezz...
What type medical condition keeps you "in the chair"?
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Susan- herniated discs. working toward a solution but I have an MS history so that doc will be handling this. prayers for healing are most welcome.
h called 3 times. came for an hour or so. got his bags. all is well- God in his heaven. thanks for all your prayers. keep it up!
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just a bump......
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Hi sprezzatura: how are things? This thread was a little cryptic (in your signature style <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ). Some hugs and love and strength coming your way from me over here. Hang in there (((sprezzatura))). PS: Are you looking at your wall at times and read the carpe diem? It still applies... Love
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hi IP- details....blah. come to chat sometime.....thanks for your prayers- Desiderata still a theme-yes!
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