July 14, 2004

Morgan Stanley
1585 Broadway
New York, NY 10036

ATTN: Mr. Phil Purcell
Chairman and CEO

Dear Mr. Purcell,

My husband is a long-time employee of a division of Morgan Stanley. I worked there myself for a time. For years I have battled the lewd, crude, permissive workplace atmosphere that led to the recent lawsuit filed against your company. I know exactly what the plaintiffs are talking about.

It's not just the men who behave this way. Some of the women learn exactly how to get their boss's undivided attention and are greatly rewarded for it. My husband, unfortunately, was foolish enough to indulge in this to the utmost behind my back. When caught, he insisted that "The Company Culture Allows It So It's Okay," and threatened to divorce me if I did not back off about his behavior at work.

This, combined with your company's strict "No Spouses Allowed At Company Social Gatherings" rule, has led to the destruction of my marriage and my own complete emotional breakdown.

Do you care anything about that, Mr. Purcell?

Yes, my husband should have had enough of a moral compass to recognize Morgan Stanley's corporate culture for the destructive, anti-marriage, anti-family situation that it is. But your company is exactly like the friend who offers his apartment key to his married friend and says, "Here, go ahead. Use my apartment to meet your girlfriend. I'll protect you. I won't tell your wife."

Your company doesn't CAUSE cheating, but it sure does encourage and enable destructive, anti-marriage behavior. Proud of this, Mr. Purcell?

Believe me, 54 million dollars wouldn't begin to cover the pain and suffering I've had to live through thanks to your corporate culture. You might want to re-think that rule about "No Spouses Allowed," and start encouraging your employees to bring their husbands and wives to this endless parades of lunches, dinners, banquets, outings, celebrations and rewards that we are now barred from.

Maybe the employees should be celebrating these things with their life partners, instead of with the cheap tramp from Accounting or the married boss from Merchant Services. It's too late for me, but you sure could save your other employees a lot of pain and suffering.

I'll watch with interest to see what you do.

Mulan

Mulan,

Bravo! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Well Said.

I Like It!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sending it soon?

Don't hold your breath for a reply.

Clapping....on my feet!

Standing ovation, Mulan!

Send it to the newspapers that have covered the lawsuit. Post it on the internet.

Mulan,

Have your ears been burning??? Because I have been thinking of you and wondering how you are. I am so sorry for your pain....but I applaud your letter and hope that the CEO hears it. Thank you for sharing!

I wish I could send a similiar one to Bill Harrison at JPMorgan Chase. Maybe I was not banned from corporate events, but when I disclosed the A at WH's work, the senior VP sent him a note saying that "Everything is still cool with me." Even though they KNOW he was grossly misusing company assets, etc.

Gee, yeah, it is really freaking cool. Just ask my ten year old who still cries himself to sleep.

They have an attitude of tolerance that makes me sick. And I will never own a Chase credit card, a Chase account, and wish I did not have my damn Chase mortgage either.

Why can't you send a letter? Send him a link to the articles about the 54 million dollar settlement too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Damn, I have a Chase Mortgage too.

Well, probably not for long. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Great letter! Please keep us posted if you receive a reply.

Thanks to all of you for your replies

If anyone wants to forward this to any other sites, feel free. Please change the signature to "A former employee of a division of Morgan Stanley," since "Mulan" probably won't mean much to anyone else.

And if you want to re-word this a bit and send it to the CEO of any other company with the same workplace attitudes -- again, feel free. I'd love that.

Good luck to all of you.
Mulan

Mulan -

I LOVE that you are doing this. I can't applaud you enough. Lets all make a commitment to hold people in positions of power accountable for their actions and the effects of those actions!

BRAVO BRAVO BRAVO

Weaver

WOW!

Send it to media outlets. Local newspapers, local new stations, and then don't stop there....go nationwide...let's aim high...go worldwide.

I'm sure there would be a lot of red tape to cut to get this exposed nationally but it'd be worth a try and who knows...you might find someone willing to stand up for what is right here and print it!

Bravo!

I had no ideas there were companies out there that excluded spouses from all company events. With my company...if my family is not welcome neither and I.

Mulan,

Braavo!! I too was not aware that there are companies out there that are soooo anti-family. I have always worked in hospitals and we are a pretty family friendly place. Where's the media when you need them? Oh, yea, I forgot. They glorify anti-family values. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I'm precious

BRAVO!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Can we send this letter to the Commandant of the United States Marine Corps? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Semper Fidelis only applies to each other, not families... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

You go Mulan!

Ladysing, feel free to send it to the Commandant of wherever. Tell him I send my regards.

Just to be perfectly clear: my husband's company *does* allow spouses at exactly two yearly events: the family picnic and the Christmas party. At these, you are expected to trot out the wife and kiddies as a sign of your success, the same way you'd be encouraged to show off you expensive new car when you drive into the company parking lot.

If the Company said "bring a ferret to the Christmas party," these people would bring a ferret. If they said "bring a goldfish," they'd bring a goldfish. If they say "bring the spouse," they'll obediently bring the spouse.

Flattering, yes? The families should be ever so grateful.

But at any other gathering that even resembles a social event -- the endless line-up of lunches, dinners, awards banquets, "reward outings," even birthday parties -- ALL of which are held off-site in public places, and many of which occur after-hours -- spouses are NOT invited and NOT welcome.

This policy allows a workplace environment that has destroyed marriages and cost this particular company 54 million dollars (so far,) but to them it's just the cost of doing business. You'll be glad to know that my husband *still* supports this policy.

Hope y'all have better luck than I did.
Mulan

Double post.

<small>[ July 15, 2004, 01:32 PM: Message edited by: Brit's Brat ]</small>

Mulan,

Send this to the company's corporate compliance officer and to the attorney who represented the Plaintiffs in the lawsuit.

Regards,

Brit's Brat

Please send this to Dr. Dobson of Focus on the Family. He reaches so many people and is a great champion of strengthening the family.

Send it to CNN's Lou Dobbs; he did a piece on that lawsuit and often takes up these types of causes on the air.

Mulan,
Can you let us know how you are doing? I've been looking for your posts.
Cherished