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I don't know if you read my reply to your insight earlier today, but I did have lunch with him. What am I supposed to do if he wants to live in the same house & pay off several bills we need to get rid of (that really benefits me financially because we can't afford 2 households) but he says there's nothing between us now? Is it the withdrawals from her that's making him think there's nothing between us now? I know you don't know him, but is this how is usually seems to go? I don't know what to think & I feel really weak & stupid. Do you think a Plan B w/no contact is a better solution? He keeps telling me he couldn't stand not having any contact with me and that's not what he wants, but maybe that would be better. Is Plan A better than Plan B?
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I have to run out on an errand. Will post later. For now, visualize him sleeping in 2 beds in 2 differnt locations at the same time (day, hour, minute). Is it physically possible?
Reality bites the A again.
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Did you get that visual pix yet? Even better, did you ever read Ark's thread on plan A?
Remember these plans are for you not your H. If he wants you to enable the A, have his cake and eat it to, is this alright with you? Are you willing to take some financial hardships by going to plan B?
R U ready for the emotional detachment if needed?
R your heart and mind in sync?
L.
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Dear Lost,
How are you doing?
<small>[ July 18, 2004, 11:22 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>
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