I'm reading posts and shocked to see that some WS did it again to their BS - some with the same OP, some not. How common is this? Are there some WS who just have a character flaw and they will cheat no matter what needs are being met? Is it ego, or selfishness or what?

I keep having nightmares that even if we do recover, WH will do it again.

HI. I can relate to this in a way. my H had an affair starting 05/03 we went through tons of drama! he moved out for 4 monts begged me to let him come back home, wooed me back. thought he had realized what a mistake he had made. i had belived in his sincerity so much i wasnt even much susupious of them working togehter he had shown me thourhg 4 months of hard work on our marriage he wanted to be here with me. not her. Well i find out in april he has contact with her. he swears it was by accident, (he was having a rough time at work and they talked). then i found out little more and then the last time i cought the contact was 6/21 it seemed everytime i would get over it a little something new would ocme up and now i feel i'm way back to a year ago and it sucks.

i dont know if this is something most do. but it sucks and it hurts over and over again. i'm hoping hes seriuos this time b/c i can NOT take much more of this!