Little shakey going over there. Once there it went pretty well. The MC went over things breifly. She strongly encouraged my Wife to stay and work things out - Your marriage has been a series of ups and downs crisis non crisis this is another Crisis although a BIG one. she also said some things to me also that i have got to try and do even though its hard.
MC said ask god to give you the strength to give your wife the space she needs and to back off the phone calls. And for God to give my wife the patience needed to deal with my regressions into smothering her.

She made a comment to my favor which i liked. She said to my wife the problem with separating is that you may feel better and equate that with not being with your husband and it may simply be not the case. She said you have stayed this long in the marriage and have not moved out for what ever reasons you give maybe the Lord is not opening up that opportunity for a reason.

Your husband has made a great change in his life because god willed that change for a reason and when he is ready and you want to listen he will guide you also.

She did say something that hit home to both of us - Men want to fix broken things right away OK give me the wrench thanks its fixed Women go about it in a long convoluted process. Your wife has seen the change (i saw a smile on my wifes face) but she is not ready to trust that change is permanent yet and that will take time.
The MC looked at me and said DON'T Ever give up dont loose faith GOD will do the right thing.

I spoke to my neighbor this morning who had a short conversation with my wife last night and she gave me some hopeful insights.

Please all pray for me to have the courage and strength to give my wife her space.

Love always Buffsco