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I have to say it was nice that he was the first person to wish me a happy birthday today. He called last night to wish me a happy early birthday as well. I think that will help me get through this day a little better.
Of course when he called other than saying happy birthday a few times he talked only about himself but I took it and responded happily even when he said that he's rearranging our room and had removed a bunch of my things.
I'm going to have dinner with some friends of mine and he won't be able to contact me while I'm gone since he disconnected my cell phone which I think will be good. That way I won't be checking every 5 minutes if he's called.
Still the day is going pretty well so far. Lance did well in the tour today so YaY! Go Lance!
Another side note to things is that I think he's finally seeing that I'm going out and doing things that he wants to do without him where before he would always go out to the movies or watch things that I wanted to do with him without me which always made me upset. I've found out that I've seen 2 movies and the tour that he really wants to see that he can't because he's broke and doesn't have OLN. I put it out there that I'd like seeing the movies again sometime but didn't say anything about going with him. I don't know, but I feel like he's getting a taste of how I felt when he'd do things without me while I was stuck at home.
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Okay, that was this morning, he calls me again just before I leave for lunch with my family. He says "Happy Birthday Again" in a happy kind of tone and then tells me that he just called to tell me that he talked to the people at the gym and decided that he wasn't going to cancel my gym membership because there really wasn't any gain for that. ?!?!?
What kind of a birthday call is that?!?! He says he just wanted to tell me before he forgot. So I just tell him thank you. Then he tells me that tonight he has to talk to some of his students individually to see what their goals for next year are. He mentions a few by name and then says and a couple of other ones as well. Yeah! I know who's in those couple of other ones. I wanted to send him a message saying that as a birthday gift to me couldn't he just not talk to her today, but I didn't I just said oh okay. Then he says he'll call me late tonight but not to change any of my plans in order to receieve his call. Blah! I wasn't going to anyway but now I'm going to have it in the back of my mind tonight when I'm at dinner with my friends that he is going to have his little meeting with OW. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> To top it off, my brother canceled coming to my birthday lunch. Typical. I wouldn't be suprised if everyone cancels going to my birthday dinner tonight; kind of like when 5 of my 6 bridesmaids canceled going to the bridesmaid slumber party I had planned just hours before it started. It's inevitable. <small>[ July 16, 2004, 02:51 PM: Message edited by: GoodByeMe ]</small>
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Happy Birthday - Hope you have a pleasant evening, and no one else cancels. Try to enjoy yourself!
In fact I would not even answer his call later. Let him think you are out whooping it up.
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Happy Birthday - Hope you have a pleasant evening, and no one else cancels. Try to enjoy yourself!
In fact I would not even answer his call later. Let him think you are out whooping it up.
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Thank you believer, but this day just isn't going as planned. The family lunch was cancelled because nobody it seems can stick to plans. I'm now supposed to go watch them eat and drink a soda because they don't want to come to the dinner tonight and I can't eat with them because I'm supposed to go to the dinner in 2 hours.
In other news, I had to call my MIL to get SIL address to send my nephew his b-day gift. She barely said anything to me, it didn't even sound like she wanted to give me the address. She did say BTW happy b-day. She never responded to my previous e-mail. I think my FIL might be telling her not to have contact with me because they are angry because I sent a nasty e-mail to them with the proof of the A when they refused to believe me.
Hopefully dinner will be better. I kind of just want to call it off and just go to sleep.
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Oh, it is perfectly normal for WH's family to ignore you. They can't believe that their wonderful son is bad, so they blame you.
Please go out and try to have a nice time.
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Let's see, it's not after midnight here yet, so I can still wish you a Happy Birthday too.
Happy Birthday!
Hope you had a good time.
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You say it's your birthday. It's my birthday, too. He threw me a party, then at night's end he's through. No sex. Just sleep. He got mad at me for waking him up.
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Happy Birthday Annie!
Yesterday went okay. Dinner was fun although I didn't really know half the people there. My parents got me a cell phone which was nice since H removed me from his account. The only time I felt like crying was in the car on the way to the restaurant when a person was talking about wanting to marry his gf on the radio followed by them playing our song. I've never heard our song on the radio and it made me remember about a time H mentioned that he was listening to the CD in the car and everytime it came on he had that happy tingling feeling. I wish he still felt that way about me. Then of course, my dad proceeded with his "The thing is..." speeches about how H is not a good person and that I can't take him back if he ever wants to come back without having him make a lot of changes and that H really needs to grow up. Everytime I talk to my dad this is what I hear and it makes me feel bad because I don't feel H is ever going to want me again. I don't know how I'm going to get through the road trip back to IL.
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