Frank hang in there..I know what you're going thru, I'm going thru it myself.
IMHO for you to be able to deal with this in a healthy way, YOU, I all us need to get to a place where we understand there are greater things than ourselves, and that selfishness, judgement and ownership must be transcended. This is a time for self-meditation, spirituality and a delving into our own growth as individuals.
I'm not directly referring to MB philosophies right now, I'm talking about something beyond M vows. Frank I know your story. I know how you stood up for you D and how you took major steps to claim her well-being, even at the risk of jeopardizing your possible reconciliation with your WS. Frank you did the right thing. What good is the house, the car or anything else if you don't have that spiritual connection with your S?
I'm not making light of your plight, but at some point your faith comes into this. Frank you did the right thing, please continue to do the right thing. Follow Mr. Harleys advice, utilize these principles to aid in saving your M, but somewhere in the back of your mind please know that in the end everything will be FINE. You will get through this. I'm hanging in there just like you Frank and believe me I know how difficult it is, hey we're both on a website at 1:30am on a Friday night (est time) we should be enjoying the warmth of our family and love ones, we're in the same damp boat, but the sun will shine again and the rain will stop. What we do during times of crisis and chaos is what defines us, that's what I hold onto and somehow it gives me comfort and hope.
Take Care friend, it's times like this that I think of Job, not a JOB but JOB <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
I have to believe that doing right by my W and my family has meaning even when I'm being done so wrong, and that whether it be my own survival strategy or truth, that is what gets me thru.
Hang in there Frank, people like us have no choice but to hang in there, that's who we are.
God Bless.
