Hi I have never posted but come to read your posts alot for this helps me in applying things to my life. The long story is this I have been married to husband for almost 18 years about 14 years ago I ran around on him. Emontional affair and lasted 2 months I decided to tell hubby and that was the end of it.As the years went on he has never let me live it down.Three 3 after that he started seeing someone when I found out he said he did it to get back at me for all the hurt I caused him. Swing forward to this year in Feb we were having problems I could tell something wasnt right and we split up for one week I asked him back because alot of the things he said I was doing I didnt realize until he was gone. Like not showing affection to him etc. Anyway he came back home under the understanding that we would go to counslor or I did order some tapes online. Needless to say he has yet to do them. As time went on I found cell bill called number and there to my suprise was the OW of course she acted like she didnt know him.I ask him every once in while if she calls him its always no and he knows if he calls her it will be on cell bill I know there are pay phones. However yesterday I asked him his password to call and get his cell messages he gave it to me.When I called there was a message from her and she acted very upset with himm something about their plans falling through well I was shocked I guess this has never stops of course he says he it old message how dumb does he think I am? I even called her and she says she hasnt talked to him in 2 months that he told her we were getting back because I begged him HA . I just dont know what to think he acts like everything is fine. And I told him kids and I arent leaving our house. He is never late coming home and Please help me Thanks sorry for being so Long <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Start in Plan A. You can read all about it on the link in my signature line.

Also try to make changes in the way you relate to your husband.