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Can you Love Bust in Plan B
#1160707 07/19/04 07:41 PM
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When I am around my wife I am cold to her and have said some judgemental things that have made her cry. How am I supposed to act in Plan B. I wanted to keep conversations short and to the point to keep my distance but she wants me to be nice to her. "What do I do
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If you are in Plan B, you should not be seeing her. Plan B is NO contact, with a letter explaining to the spouse WHY this is necessary for you. It means not being in her presence and not meeting ANY of her emotional needs. It is to protect your feelings of love that still remain as well as giving her a real taste of what it would be like with you gone (you don't tell HER that bit tho!). If she sees it as a love buster, well, that is not supposed to be your problem in Plan B. AND one benefit of Plan B is that you won't be around her love busting in her face.

Do a search on the Plan B letters others have written, and get busy.

Love and light,

jacky
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well I have to have contact because we have 2 children together so when i see her how do i treat her.. where are the plan b letters
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SA, the answer is just as Nina said, in Plan B you don't talk to her or see her. When she picks up the kids, you send them out on the porch without seeing her. You make unscehduled arrangements through a designated go-between.

Its best to get this all cleared up via a Plan B letter, ie: "you can have the kids from 10am - 8 pm every Wed, pick them up at the house, I will send them out to the car, etc." She should only contact you in an emergency.
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