Plan A status- So I'm there - absolutely NO LB from me..we are having conversation, went to lunch a couple of times, spoke of his D upcoming wedding - which I have decided to attend - not going would have been a MAJOR LB - I'm making myself available so he can't get out to see OP as much. BUT,,,,,he is STILL calling OP'S (yes, plural) using a phone card so calls won't show on any phone bills..Though I did find the access codes so I can check how often he's calling (it's daily). THough I can't find out "who" the OP's are..Which is a major bummer..
He seems to have softened and is being nicer to me, seems to include me in certain conversations with others. THough he is still sleeping in another BR - I have not asked him to come back to our BR.
My question is since I KNOW that I am in a "false recovery" (since he's still calling OP's) how long do I play this Plan A game???
I have not contacted OPH yet - I don't plan on doing that until I see what happen after his D wedding - will he ever stop seeking OP's??
If he truly is a serial cheater will I live a life of "false recovery"?
Will he ever just stop?
Will Plan A make him see the "light"?
We have not discussed our M, his A's, Divorce, theraphy, or what our future holds - I figure in Plan A - I don't want to put any known pressure on him to come forward and change his ways or else...I'm just trolling now..It may all be a game to him (which in my mind I'm playing a game too)till his D wedding is over - then he will probably go right back at his dirty deeds.
It's hard living in "false recovery" - but, I feel it's the only thing I can do right now to keep my sanity. I refuse to put my heart on my sleeve again with him still using phone cards..
